Grieving-Looking for a sign

[sthrift]

My 46 year old mentally ill brother committed suicide this Thursday. I became nervous when I couldn't reach him on the phone and went to his apartment and found him. We are very close and I have been working very hard to get him good medical help but ultimately he wasn't able to get on the right combination of meds to control his symptoms.

I am probably still in shock...this may sound crazy but I feel a strong need to feel his spirit or receive some sign that he is at peace. Have any of you ever had an experience like that or had a reading w a psychic after a death?:confused:

[Donna Gilpin]

My sister just lost two of her Children in a terrible car wreck, her son was 18, her daughter was 19, they were on their way home from the hospital seeing her son's new born baby boy. The daughter also had a little girl who was 14 months old. My sister is feeling very much like you she is wondering if there is some kind of sign out there they are sending her or if there is a way she could just contact them. She misses them deeply and she wishes there was some way she could receive a sign or some thing. She just prays and ask God to tell them she misses them and Loves them very much:)

[KathyM]

Sthrift

My condolences on the loss of your brother. Your need is very understandable.

I'm a little skeptical about psychic readings because it doesn't seem right to do it for a living. IMO, it takes something sacred and places it in a circus/entertainment type setting.

There have been three people in my life where I felt the need you describe. My father, mother, and best friend. Over time, they all let me know they are at peace - but it was on their time, not mine. Mom took her sweet time in letting me know she's okay though - about 10 years. :p

For me, this all occurred in dreams. My dad's was kind of funny. He appeared to me in a dream to let me know he's okay, but before he could say anything else, my best friend popped into the dream. She scolded my dad for revealing how he made contact with me, and he responded "Hey, I'm new to this - I didn't know." I felt a little left out, so I butted in "excuse me, isn't this supposed to be MY dream?" She then sternly told me to NEVER reveal what I'd just seen. Ya know, I always thought they were supposed to be "feel good" dreams, not scoldings and arguments. :rolleyes:

Mom's was kinda sweet. I was in a three-walled room sitting on a French provincial couch, looking at the Earth far away. Mom walked into the room and apologized for being so late - said she was busy having a good time with all her new friends. She told me the room is used for people to watch over their loved ones. She warned me about some things I'd have to deal with and gave me some good advice to see me through. :)

I've also had times when I sensed their presence - a familiar scent, a shared favorite song at the right time, etc.

I was sitting in my bedroom the other day. It used to be his bedroom, and he died in that room. I looked over to the spot where I saw him last and said "I loved you so much, and I miss you." :(

I didn't want to start crying, so I turned on the TV music channels. Just then "Counting Flowers on the Wall" by the Statler Brothers started to play. When I was a little girl, I'd stand on my father's feet and we'd laugh and dance to this song. The music brought a smile to my face, and my heart started dancing with my father again. :)

You have an open wound right now, and I'll keep you and your brother in my prayers. I hope your brother will be able to give you some type of sign that he's okay.

[Buttons2]

sthrift, I'm so sorry you've lost your brother. Yes, you are certainly still in shock I'd say.

I'm trying to recall just when/how I finally was able to accept my brother-in-law's suicide. I felt he was more like a brother & I do know that after about 2 years I finally accepted what he'd done. This was over 20 yrs ago so my memory is rather faded by now. Seems to me that I went to a beach or into the woods, somewhere I could cry hard & finally let him go....forgive him for dying & forgive myself that I didn't recognize the signs.

We're all just humans, we cannot possibly know for sure what becomes of the soul. I believe that the people we loved & lost are always with us. In our dreams-yes. In our hearts-yes. In our memories-yes. Nothing can take that away from us.

Donna, what a tragic accident! So young, and with babies too, my heart goes out to your friend & her family.

Kathy, thanks for sharing the dreams!

About seeing a physic, I think that's a personal decision to make. Maybe give yourself more time? Everyone grieve's in their own way. Some things we just have to accept without knowing the answers.

Take care,Buttons

[suede]

sthrift, I'm also so sorry for your loss.
I wanted to say that what Kathy has told you has also been so true for me.
There has been many times through out my life I have gotten signs from my loved ones that have passed on,
Thing is that often they are just not something we expect or feel is a sign,as for myself several of these signs that I have had I tried to talk myself out of believing happened afterwards I think we all often do that, we get a sign and then our "commonsense" takes over and tried to tell ourselves, oh that didn't happen I just want to believe it so I do, when in realty it was the sign we had been asking and praying for.
Relax and open yourself up for this sign and when it happens trust it and believe..

Donna, I also an so very sorry for your loss and your sisters, how very sad.

Linda