i cannot take it anymore

[tenacious]

hello,

i have been going through a bad time with my spouse for a long time now, which includes emotional abuse, fi nancial abuse and physical abuse.

i am gathering things togethr and putting them at a friend's; soon though, i am going to need a storage unit.

if there is one thing i won't do, it is go to a woman's shelt3er; i went in august and it was awful.

my bra is constantly full of my meds, my debit card, identification, etc, so if he takes me purse like he did again last night, there isn't anything in there he csn do anything with..........:eek:

[tenacious]

is there anyone out there going through a similar thing/

[tic chick]

tenacious....

please be careful. if your spouse knows you are definitely leaving, that is the greatest time of danger for you. he might do something drastic to keep you from leaving.

leave now and take a policeperson with you to get your stuff to a storage unit. don't stay any longer than you have to.

jeannie

[Donna Gilpin]

I have been through the same thing you are going threw, Honey it dont get any better the longer you wait, I went to a womens shelter too I hated it also. I left one night in the middle of the night while he was drunk and passed out. I never went back! Leave Now Dont Look Back, There is life out there. You will feel alot better.....I PROMISE! It may be hard at first but its worth leaving!!!!!!!

[tenacious]

tenacious....

please be careful. if your spouse knows you are definitely leaving, that is the greatest time of danger for you. he might do something drastic to keep you from leaving.

leave now and take a policeperson with you to get your stuff to a storage unit. don't stay any longer than you have to.

jeannie

thank you sooo very much for your response!! last evening i had no choice but to call the police because he hit me in the face, scratching my eyelids and bending my glasses. i had been told if i called the police again, they would take both of us to jail. i reminded them of that when four officers got here. this time, however, there was a county female officer who also responded, and she took me into the bedroom to talk, and she saw the 10-12 holes in the wall from him. she saw the writing he did all over the walls. she saw how he broke a 1/4 inch mirror on my dresser, and this didn't even happen last night.

anyway, he is in jail for domestic abuse.

[tenacious]

I have been through the same thing you are going threw, Honey it dont get any better the longer you wait, I went to a womens shelter too I hated it also. I left one night in the middle of the night while he was drunk and passed out. I never went back! Leave Now Dont Look Back, There is life out there. You will feel alot better.....I PROMISE! It may be hard at first but its worth leaving!!!!!!!

thank you also for your reply. you are right, it isn't easy at all!! i am disabled, and i have sooo much work to do here, with cleaning and packing, and i don't even know where i will be going. i am a christian, but i will not have any churches help in getting things packed; i don't want the judgement.

i am grateful that you got out!!!

[tenacious]

:( he is gone; i am not sure if i mentioned that he is in jail now for domestic abuse, with no bond. the judge approved the no contact order i requested.

i am going to move, and i am not sure that it is a good idea for me to stay in the same city, or the same state. i only have one good friend here, and her and her husband have been a blessing to me.

this may not sound right, but i just don't feel like trying to make new friends here, or right now, because i feel to needy.........does that make any sense? friendship goes both ways, as we all know, and i don't feel i have much to give right now........:(