My Mom...

[Donimo]

Hi..
I usually post (rarely) on the epilepsy forum. But Im almost always found on our chatroom ...here at "home".
My mom passed away, today , from what I think was Neuroleptic Malignant Syndrome.
At 83 yrs of age she led a full life, enjoyed painting, gardening, cooking, pottery, and all the arts, but most enjoyed the calmness of nature. But nature took its toll, her eyesight declined, her hearing loss increased, when she started to go into her 90th yr.
Things changed, things that were not supposed to be there -where there, anziety took over - things that she should really not be concerned about were major concerns or even plots. I looked upon it at first as kind of ..."funky ol' mom" ....but soon realized it was reality to her.
Please don't loose the reality of your loved one to this disease, or try to fight it or dismiss it.
Embrase the last days, weeks and months you have even if you cant understand .....

Donimo

[Jo6]

Donimo I truely am sorry about your Mom. No matter what took our LO's away, it still hurts like ****.

You are right, enjoy the time we have, no matter if they do start to change. Just go with it, never argue with them because I can tell you this, THEY are always right.:)

There come a time when I started calling my Mom by her given name. She seemed more at ease with this even though we never discussed it. My Mom had brain cancer. She turned 80 on Jan. 24th, 1996. she passed on Feb, 12th, 1996.

Even though both our Mom's are gone, they are just as real to me today as 10 years ago. I appreciated what you said about enjoying the time we have with them. you are so right and somewhere deep inside I believe they know, just can't express how they feel.

Take care of yourself, Donimo. It sounds like you have done all the right things. I know you will miss her, but I am reminded of a friend who wrote a book after she helped and cared for her Dad. She said he had finally come thru the other side of the mist, never to be confused again.

It hurts because you don't want to lose them, but then we rejoice as we picture them comming out of the mist and happy she is there.

I will think of you others that have already been at this place as I think of MIL. She is very low and at times I wonder how much lower she can get, but not until Gods time. Blessings, Julia

[Tootsie]

Donino, I'm so glad that your were able to appreciate your Mom's wonderful life and the beauty that she found in nature. She has left you a wonderful heritage, even though that last period of time saw her senses dim and her reality challenged.

It is the common theme on this forum to value those few lucid moments, treasure the old memories and don't fight the inevitable. Cheerio.

[JanM]

I am sorry for your loss.....you never get over losing a loved one, but you do learn to live with it.