wheelchair ramp and my MIL (vent)

[mama z]

We finally got Andrew's new Zippie about 2 weeks ago. It's so awesome compared to his other chair. He just looks so much more comfortable.

My dh has been saying for 2 years that he wants to build the ramp, he hasn't wanted anyone else to do it. After waiting that long I've given up and called to have someone else do it. We're using waiver money so that's not an issue.

Anyway, got the estimate on Friday. Promptly took it to dh and my MIL, since she owns the house. She has been crabbing since Friday about the ramp because they have to take out one of the bushes in order to put the landing in. http://www.smilieland.com/graphics/redhot.gif

I'm beyond upset about this. dh pointed out that she hasn't said no "yet". That's not the point. She's crabbing about a stupid bush and doesn't give wits *** about my back or her grandson. I told her I'd plant a new bush, but she likes this one. It's so "pretty".

I'm so sick of this stuff. http://www.smilieland.com/graphics/banghead.gif Wish we could move but unfortunately (fortunately) she gives us a break on the rent. :o

Laura

[Tracy Sheppard]

{{{Laura}}}}
How frustrating! Like you said it is a "bush". I'm sure it can be replanted elsewhere in the yard. Or, if she likes it that much she can plant it in her yard. I am sorry that she is being a bit cantancerous over this "little" issue of a bush. Praying that she comes to her senses and the ramp is put in PDQ....((((Hugs again deary))))

[wheeliebird]

Anyway, got the estimate on Friday. Promptly took it to dh and my MIL, since she owns the house. She has been crabbing since Friday about the ramp because they have to take out one of the bushes in order to put the landing in.

I'm beyond upset about this. dh pointed out that she hasn't said no "yet". That's not the point. She's crabbing about a stupid bush and doesn't give wits *** about my back or her grandson. I told her I'd plant a new bush, but she likes this one. It's so "pretty".

Laura, OMGoodness, a bush is such a little thing that can be replaced can't your MIL see this?? She should be happy you want to do anything you can to make it easier to get Andrew around. Please forgive me for saying this but this sounds like a way to control you and DH!!! :( Good Luck Hon and I'm glad to hear Andrew looks good in his new wheelchair. I tell you those wheelchair people sure do know thier stuff in fitting kids as well as adults with wheelchairs!!! When I get out of here and into my own place UCP said I too will be able to get a new manual and power whailchair every 5 years!!! In fact I'm to get my doctor to perscribe one for me for when the time comes and I CAN'T WAIT!!! :D Hang in there Hon, tell your MIL to "fly right"!!! :p

[glad2beadam's mom!]

I am just shocked that your son's GRANDMOTHER would be acting this way. Perhaps if she were the one having to deal with wheelchair issues day in and day out she "might" understand. She'll get over it....I would tell her the Fall is a great time of the year to transplant trees and bushes...it would look great in her yard. Don't think another thing about it.

[Brandon's Mom]

I'd write what my thoughts were when I read about your MIL, but the terms of service for this site say I'm not allowed to use profanities. ;)

[Carly'sMa]

What kind of bush is it. And where do you live?

Is the an arboretum or botanical garden in your area? They may be able to give you advice on how to safely move the bush.

You could also try calling you local cooperative extension. They could tell you about moving the bush.

I ask where you live because of the season. If you are in the north or colder climate, you need to be careful now because of freezing. You will be disturbing the roots and you need to make sure that they are well protected transplanting this late in the year. But, it may be possible to do.

Yes I agree that MIL should be more concerned about her grandson than the bush, but it sounds like you need to appease her somehow.

[J&K Mom]

Ahhhh, MIL's... don't ya just ha... umm, I mean love them!!!! It really is sad that she's acting like that over a bush. {{{HUGS}}}