Roll Call Nov. 3, 2009

[Leeaelle]

Hi All ~ An unusually sunny, nice day here. Lately, we've been having lots of rain and gloom, so this is a nice sight!

I got to thinking lately, due to some recent trouble with my daughter, that many times I tend to sweat the small stuff. I've ALWAYS had a tendency to over-react about the little things, especially about 'clutter' and crap around the house. Since she and her daughter moved in with me, this house looks like someone blew it up ~ and I'm not used to living like that. So it creates a lot of friction between us ~ a LOT. When I really get to thinking about it tho, all it is, is "stuff." Granted, it looks horrible when people come over but I guess I shouldn't be so concerned with what other people think. After all, whose problem is it? Mine or theirs??? It's mine!

When a TRUE crisis comes, I can handle that. I'm great in a TRUE crisis. But this day to day small stuff is what trips me up, and I think that's true of every alcoholic. Even for us in recovery. As one of my daily prayer books says we have to be able to tell the difference between molehills and mountains. I keep tripping over molehills! LOL. It doesn't matter how long you've been sober either. I've been sober for 16 years, and I still trip up. Gotta keep ever-vigilant with this disease or it will bite you in the butt!

God bless all! Love, Lee :D

[batsinwonderland]

I agree, I am better when in stress mode. I am waiting for the stress to go away and then see how it goes. My daughter gets out of rehab tomorrow. I hope she stays clean and then I can find out how I am while having less stress!

[houghchrst]

Oh man I live in stress mode all the time and I am not talking about small stress, I get head full, muscle tight, crying jag type of stress.

I too do well in crisis mode but my day to day functioning is impeded by my stress level. I do take meds but sometimes I have to remind myself to not stress about little things like the house work.

bats I really hope your daughter continues to do well.

[batsinwonderland]

Well, here it is. My daughter is doing well. She moved in with a friend from treatment. She is another single mom with a daughter. They seem to be serious about recovery. I have an empty nest. I met a girlfriend before the woman's meeting tonite and had tea. I think I can do this. Tomorrow, I sleep in, see my therapist, listen to a sponcee read the 2nd step, then maybe go to the Y before a meeting. Wednesday, I get a facial by my friend who is in beauty school. HO is in charge, and all is well.:D

[Leeaelle]

Hi Sweetie ~ This is GOOD news! I pray that it continues just like this! It's good that your daughter has some support, and that the girl she's living with is also in the program. This will give her added incentive to do well!

And YOU have your home to yourself. Now STOP WORRYING! It's not up to YOU now, and it really has never been. Now is the time to turn her over to God. Please, give yourself some much needed peace! It's not easy to do but it's SIMPLE. Just tell God that you can't do it anymore, and give her to HIM.

That's what I had to do with my son, and believe me I've been much more at ease since then ~~ until he calls me and starts his whining again. Then I have to turn him over all over again. LOL. Anyway, I'm glad you're treating yourself to the facial, etc. God bless you dearheart ~ you need some peace in your life. Love, Lee