angry daughter

[dianne633]

Hi everyone
I don't know if I am on the right thread, but hear goes, I spoke to my daughter tonight, she is 20 years old, she is in jail, it was the only place she thought that she could get help, she robbed a servo and then waited for the police to come and pick her up, she has borderline personality disorder when she went to court they gave her 5 years jail, well l thought she would be safe in there and she would get the help she needed, now she told me that she saw the phyc doctor today and she told him her feelings, that she is wanting to kill people, and is there any help they can do for her, the phyc told her that it was her decision, well she knows this but she said she was scared that she would do, it she is pleading for help and they won't help her I don't know what to do I try to support her we haven't abandoned her, we love her very much, we had her under a phyc at home but the hospital kept throwing her out so she went one step further and robbed the servo.she has done a lot of things in the last 2 years that have been hard on all of us her included.please can anyone give me advise

[joy]

Hi Dianne

I wish I had something to offer you that would help. But sadly I'm not capable of getting my own daughter who is 32yo to listen to much of my advice. She's beginning to a little but only after being hospitalized for about a week. I would be interested in hearing anything that you wish to share that happens regarding your daughter. Hopefully someone will be able to help her.

[dianne633]

Hi joy
Thank you for answering me, it is good to know that someone will talk to me, I had a bad day today I was thinking about her 21 st birthday coming up and it really got to me, but l am on top of it again, I haven't heard from her since the other night when l posted,but I will kept you up to date with what is going on, joy does your daughter have borderline personality disorder.

[joy]

Hi Dianne

I'm sorry about the caps but I don't want to retype. The font changed when I cut and pasted it. It was ALL in caps before this.

I Don't Know What Exactly To Call What She Does Have. I'm Not Making Excuses But She Is Adopted And Has Built In Problems From That. My Son Does Too But His Took A Different Form As Anger And Bluntness. But When She Was Home And Teenager And Young Adult She Had Depression And Also Anxiety Problems.

Nothing Seemed To Really Help The Depression. She Had Been On Several Kinds. I Remember Her Telling The Doctor That Prozac Made Her So Mad She Wanted To Kill! So Doctor Took Her Off That. Zoloft 50 Mg And Upped To 100 Did Not Help.

I Can’t Remember All The Medicines She Has Tried. She Had Muscles Problems Big Time And Once Dated A Young Man That Worked For A Doctor. She Was Working And Had Insurance And That Doctor Tried Everything. Just About The Time That Doctor Made Some Headway She Lost Her Job. Her Boss Called Her Into The Office And Just Plainly Told Her She Did Not Like Her. Said She Was A Good Worker But That Was It, You’re Fired. That Is When She Fell Back In With The Relationship With The Boy She Fell In Love With At 16. They Had A Bad Relationship And Broke Up Many Times. When She Lost Her Job At 25 He Called Her At The Wrong Time And She Went Back To Him Promising She Would Take It Slow Until She Was Sure He’d Changed. Right!! Of Course He Hadn’t. To Put It Bluntly She Is In A Bad Marriage. They Both Love Each Other But Hey It Takes More Than That For It To Be A Good Marriage.

Her Health Is Bad, Always Has Been. And Now Seziures And Pancreatitis So She Does Not Need Any Stress. And Stress Is All She Has! Her Husband Does Not Understand That She Will Never Be Healthy Or Act Like She Did Before All The Health Issues Came Up.

She Was Pushed Into Seeing A Phyciatrist To Be Able To Continue Getting The Medicine She Needed. It Does Not Help That She Works For Husband’s Parents And Has No Insurance. I’m Sorry If You Have Read This Elsewhere On Bt But I Wanted To Fill You In Just In Case You Haven’t. It Helps Me To Write About It. And She Knows I Do And Can Certainly Reognize My Posts, Lol. But I Never Tell Anything That She And I Have Not Already Talked About Before So I Don’t Feel Like I’m Betraying Her By Telling This.

Don’t Feel You Have To Tell Me Anything You Don’t Want Too But If You Are Indeed Like Me And It Helps, Go Ahead. I Will Try Anything To Keep It From Invading My Mind And Keeping Mme From Sleeping! I’m At The Point I’m Will Go See A Phycologist Or Phyciastrist If I Have Too To Find A Way To Deal With This. My Son Has Jealousy Problems And I Feel Like I’m Not Making Much Headway With Either Sometime. And It Is Bad On My Husband As Well Since I Just Can’t Turn My Back On My Children.

There. I Have Bared My Soul And Hope I Have Not Bored You To Death. Feel Free To Do The Same If It Will Help