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[KDWS]

Two months ago my mother had a severe subdoral hematoma in her left temporal lobe. It has only been two months. What can we expect with respect to her recovery? She can walk, talk, feed herself, I am most concerned about her personality she was such an upbeat postive person who loved to spend time wiht her childrne and grandchilren. Her and I talked at least two times a day and now it seems like she can not wait to get off the phone and talking to her is very one sided. She sends the kids outside to play. She seems to want to be by herself more. I wonder if she is still recoverying...she just got home Friday from rehabb. My sisters say this is it her brain and it is damaged and she will never be the person we knew..she is not our mom...we have lost our mom...the person we knew as my mom is gone...do you all think that this is true?

[KDWS]

Give me somthing throw me a bone!!
Kim

[smokingun35]

Kim,

What we learned last year is that nobody knows what the end result will be after a brain related injury or issue.

Our son had a Traumatic Brain Injury last May and we were told he would never be the same person, might never know us, might never walk, never talk, maybe not even feed himself and at 17 yrs old.. They were full of some bad smelling stuff.. He was not "himself" for about 3 months or so and went through many months of being angry, sad, depressed etc.. Now, with the exception of some physical change, he is mentally 100&.. Back to his happy - loving - moody teenage self!!

I can tell you what I believed and what helped me through - God.. I spent weeks in the Chapel while I was getting all these remarks from Dr's that he would never be the same... What I remembered was that it was all up to God..

No doubt brain injuries cause problems but we use so little of our brains anyway that people often adjust to the injuries through rehab and daily interactions.

Is your Mom taking ANY meds as a result of the injury? Many, Many meds can cause swift mood changes and seeming personality changes too..

Check her med side effects with a pharmacy or do some internet research but if you don't mind praying give God the oppotunity to help through prayer..

[dawnmn]

Kim,
I had a ruptured aneursym seven years ago. It's too early to tell if your mom will ever be the same. The brain continues to heal for years.
One thing why your mom is sending the grandchild out to play is the noise. When I was recovering noise bothered me alot. Also, more then one person at a time was too confessing for me. It was also hard to follow a converstaion. My attention was not great for awhile.
Don't give up on your mom yet.
Another thing is most people who've gone through what your mom has devolopes depression. That's one thing you should watch for.
Your mom has gone through a life changing stroke she will be different.