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[KDWS]

My mother and I could not be more close. In fant the entire family is incredibly close..since this started she has never been without one of the kids with her by her side day AND night...we bullied bribed whatever it took from the moment this happened one of us have been with her..thankfully there are five of us...one boy four girls and miracle of al miracles one of the girls is a nurse...how anyone survives any hispitial stay without a family memeber in the medical field is beyound me my sisster caught more and saved my mom;s life at least two times!!
We are so grateful to have my mother alive..my father said it best even if she is wheelchair bound and nonresponsive he would be grateful....
I should tell you five days after the tbi she had a heart attack..five days after that she had a pulmonary embolism...five days later blood clots int he legs...this woman is amazing!!!!
I am just desperate for a prognosis...and believe me I know the drill I have a son with down syndrome all I ever wanted to know was if he was going to be "allright"...it took me years and years to figure out that yes he will be allright..he is 8 now. It took me years to accpet that you just dont know that you have to wait and see that you have to give it time...all that bull I already worked through..now to have to go through this again....BLAH!!!
I also read with interest the when did you know your brain was damaged..I don't think my mom knows or she is in deep denail...
What are some things we can do as a family to supprot her..what were the best things people did for you what were the worst things people did...we just want to do what is best for my mother what will help and support her to be the best she can be.
What are some of the affects of your brain injury..what have you noticed is different about you good and bad. Thanks!

[dawnmn]

Kim,
Keep your mom's mind working. I did word scearch puzzles. Possible get her some more OT, speech therphy. I made one mistake and that was going back to work way too early but I think that did help keep my mind going.
I have short term memory problems. My excutive functions was also damage. It took me years to admit to my self that I had brain damage. For awhile I just thought of it as a bump in the road of life. I couldn't figure out why
I was having a hard time at work.
Try not to put any stress on your mom.
One of the best things that was done for me was no one let me give up. They kept pushing me. Your mom may sleep more but let her it helps the brain heal itself.
My husband would give me little test on reading. I would read something and he would see how much of it I would comprehen.
I fight depression still to this day. Which is normal for someone after a brain injury.
It's way too early for anyone to be able to tell you what the fruture holds for your mom. It sounds like she has mad process. Be patience with her. My husband would get upset when I couldn't remember things. Even today I have problems remembering. Sorry this is so long. I hope somewhere I've answered some of your questions.

[vini]

hi

with brain injury rest no stress until your mom ,wants to take it on, omega 3 and 6 fatty acid help a bit with healing, depression and depersonalization go hand in hand with with brain injury not feeling the same is hard to deal with , and not feeling things emotions ect, is were your dear mom may be at, so just except her as is

TIME is a healer