Bipolar Ruined My Relationship

[wwebby]

It's nice to be back on these boards. A lot has happened to me since BT has been down.

My partner of 9 years left me in July. This was only 9 months after my hospitalization last October. I've only been hospitalized this one time.

But the depression then had last for about a year and a half. I still was adjusting meds and getting better when she left.

She says she "just couldn't do it anymore." She lost her feelings for me and burned out on being my caretaker. This led her into the arms of someone else in July, an affair she waited 2 months to tell me about.

I am devastated, but starting to feel happy that I don't have to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. And someone who couldn't hang in there with me while I got well.

All of this has been very hard for me, but not nearly as hard as being sick. My meds are working now and I am, believe it or not, healthy and happy.

[bizi]

oh webby,
I am so sorry that you have had such a long run of depression.
I am very happy to hear that your meds now are working....
9 years is a long time to be with someone and it always hurt to be cheated on...lied to.... etc.
Glad that you found it here.
(((HUGS)))
bizi

[Mari]

Dear Webby,
I don't know how I could have handled that.
I'm glad that you are doing better.

Bipolar gives us lives that are just a bit harder than other people's.
But I'm not in a good mood tonight so don't listen to me.
Mari

[NIKI209]

That Sucks Dude! I Was Just Recently Diagnosed Bi-polar And Its Taking A Toll On My Relationship Too. Hey... You Gotta Hang In There Though. I Beleive Every Person Has Someone In The World That Will Make Them Happy. You Just Gotta Wait For Them To Find You! Keep Good Spirits!

[AncientWolf]

((((((((((((((((wweby)))))))))))))))) I'm so sorry to hear about that major hurt in your life and the lengthy depression and hospitalization. The timing of the cheating and the break-up were pretty terrible. It's possible that you even sensed the relationship was going downhill and maybe that even contributed to your lengthy depressive episode. I think many if not most of us with BiPolar can empathize with the situation of bi-polar contributing to the failure of at least one relationship.

I am very happy that you are back with us here and to hear that your meds are now working for you. I wish you much stability in your life and hope that you continue to find more and more joy as you continue on your journey.

Namaste,

Daniel

[waves]

gosh i think i was too quivery to post back at the time... It's nice to be back on these boards. A lot has happened to me since BT has been down.

My partner of 9 years left me in July. This was only 9 months after my hospitalization last October. I've only been hospitalized this one time.

But the depression then had last for about a year and a half. I still was adjusting meds and getting better when she left.

She says she "just couldn't do it anymore." She lost her feelings for me and burned out on being my caretaker. This led her into the arms of someone else in July, an affair she waited 2 months to tell me about.

I am devastated, but starting to feel happy that I don't have to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. And someone who couldn't hang in there with me while I got well.just thought i'd say, bipolar ruined my relationship too. or what seemed to be a relationship :rolleyes:. but oddly think that saved my life too ... for as long as that may last. i mean it was just wrong for me. like you said... as painful as it was, you found out a deep truth about someone. i found out some deep truths about my someone... after many years invested. i also am tasting freedom finally. it really sucks the way they pick their timing tho, eh?
All of this has been very hard for me, but not nearly as hard as being sick. My meds are working now and I am, believe it or not, healthy and happy.

It really is nice to have you back. How are you coming along?

~ waves ~

[wwebby]

Thanks everyone for your kind words. It has been a tough road, learning to be single again but I am starting to enjoy the time to myself. We have not begun to sell the house yet, but that's coming soon. And what to do with the pets? I'm glad there are no children involved. I can't imagine how difficult that would be.

Just to kick me while I'm down, I got fired two weeks ago so now I am unemployed. UGH! And yesterday I cut myself and ended up in the hospital getting stitches. BUT, despite it all, I am doing well and have only had a few minor mood swings so that's good.

I'm starting to think the break up was more about her than about me. She says she is in love with this new person, but says she is not happy and fulfilled. So, in a way I'm glad. It makes me think that she is just not happy and took it out on our relationship. It wasn't entirely my bipolar that did it.

Thanks again everyone!

[hopetoday]

My relationship with someone bipolar is about to be destroyed with several complications. Please give me advice from someone who has it. I don't know what to do or say anymore and I am loosing it.

I have been patient and loving and understanding for two years and I am just feeling like total crap and frustrated.

He just left again and is not coming back until (???) who knows... we own a condo together but he also has a condo in another state. it is sooooo complicated and his family makes it 10000 million times worse.

what do i do to help when he wont help himself???


he was hospitilized and was doing so good after and nOW it is back to the drawing board along with several other serious issues.

help me.

i love him.

and I know he loves me and cares.

he just refuses to show it and is pushing me away and hurting me on purpose so i lose it.

[Mari]

Hello, Hope,

This sounds very frustrating and draining. I am sorry that you are going through it.

Is he on medication and seeing his doctors?

Sometimes the best thing to do is go to a counselor for yourself.

He will get his act together when and if he wants to. There is not much you can do to make that process happen more quickly.


Mari