LuvMKISA
11-10-2008, 12:00 PM
1st let me say that I love my boyfriend, and truly want to be supportive of him.
Heres my problem. What I’d like to know is how do I approach him to talk about TBI? What are your experiences with this? I’d like to here from both sides of this experience. Early on he said he did not want to discuss his injuries in detail so I let it go. I do know that he suffered traumatic bodily and brain injuries; and has made great progress……..except that jealousy trigger.
Background: We have not been dating ‘long” and we’ve been fighting like cats&dogs for the past month. Jealousy and Insecurities were driving me crazy.
He did not want me speaking to guys; got mad if he thought someone liked or was attracted to me, etc. We live and work in a 75-80% male environment so there’s no way I could “accommodate” his demands.
He’s dumped me 3x the past month, has dumped on me several times, and is currently NOT speaking to me.
I was totally prepared to walk away and leave this “caustic” relationship alone; because it’s not good for either of us. It seemed that he wanted “control” of me.
Problem identified: This past Saturday while watching Discovery Health, I came to realize that TBI might be the issue here. Dr. Drew gave a description similar to: head injury may cause emotional volatility (intense mood swings or extreme reactions to everyday situations). Such overreactions could be sudden tears, angry outbursts, or laughter. It is important to understand that the person has lost some degree of control over emotional responses
At that point the battles all made sense, and I also realized that I’d handled everything wrong (I would have reacted differently had I’d know that TBI was the issue). Early on he said he did not want to discuss his injuries in detail so I let it go. I do know that he suffered traumatic bodily and brain injuries; and has made great progress……..except that jealousy trigger.
It’s now Monday, and I’d like to dialogue with him on this, if not for “our sake” then for His. Avoidance is not a “healthy” choice. IMHO
Heres my problem. What I’d like to know is how do I approach him to talk about TBI? What are your experiences with this? I’d like to here from both sides of this experience. Early on he said he did not want to discuss his injuries in detail so I let it go. I do know that he suffered traumatic bodily and brain injuries; and has made great progress……..except that jealousy trigger.
Background: We have not been dating ‘long” and we’ve been fighting like cats&dogs for the past month. Jealousy and Insecurities were driving me crazy.
He did not want me speaking to guys; got mad if he thought someone liked or was attracted to me, etc. We live and work in a 75-80% male environment so there’s no way I could “accommodate” his demands.
He’s dumped me 3x the past month, has dumped on me several times, and is currently NOT speaking to me.
I was totally prepared to walk away and leave this “caustic” relationship alone; because it’s not good for either of us. It seemed that he wanted “control” of me.
Problem identified: This past Saturday while watching Discovery Health, I came to realize that TBI might be the issue here. Dr. Drew gave a description similar to: head injury may cause emotional volatility (intense mood swings or extreme reactions to everyday situations). Such overreactions could be sudden tears, angry outbursts, or laughter. It is important to understand that the person has lost some degree of control over emotional responses
At that point the battles all made sense, and I also realized that I’d handled everything wrong (I would have reacted differently had I’d know that TBI was the issue). Early on he said he did not want to discuss his injuries in detail so I let it go. I do know that he suffered traumatic bodily and brain injuries; and has made great progress……..except that jealousy trigger.
It’s now Monday, and I’d like to dialogue with him on this, if not for “our sake” then for His. Avoidance is not a “healthy” choice. IMHO