We are moving

[matika]

Some of you might remember I recently went through a divorce, back in Agusut to be exact.
I am not relocating from Central Oregon Coast to, Souther California to be closer to my family. I feel I need the support that I haven't received, and my mom is willing to move in with me to help me with the kids.
I hope to be able to work longer days now that she will be there to watch them a couple or 3 hours after school while I work. Then I should be able to take the weekends to do things with my kids and feel I have some sort of a normal life, let's hope.
I applied for a house for rent, and still haven't hear back from them since they just received the application today really, it is so hard to rent long distance. But my mom did go see the house and said it was very nice, 4 bedrooms so we each will get our own get away room from the chaos lol.
I am excited about the move, but sad at the same time. I am almost all the way packed and haven't hear a sure 'yes you have the house' answer, I am crazy! but anxious to get going.
Yesterday I was packing my closet, and Rachel came and asked me what I was doing, I said, I am packing 20 years of marriage away, but I said it to myself offcouse.
When Rachel first seen me pack just a few days ago, she asked what I was doing, I said we are moving, so I am packing, now remember Rachel does not speak much, so she thought for a moment, then runned and brings the cat back with her and puts him in a box lol, she does not want us to leave him behind.. well I thought that was so cute of her.

Anyways, I am leaving Oregon next Friday, house or no house, if I get the house I can move in it on the 15th, if I don't then I leave on the 14th super early so I can get to my moms on the 15th and start looking for houses on the 16th, please keep us in your prayers so we have this house, and if this is not the one, that I will find one soon.

My exhusband will be driving the moving van for me, which he really does not have to do but it is very much greatly appreciated. If I leave without having a house for rent, he will come as soon as I find a house with the moving van.

I am scared in a way, for the transition for the kids at school, they both have their issues, and even if Joshua has come a way way long ways, I know this will affect him. I have been talking to them for a couple of weeks now about the move,, first reaction was Joshua cried, but slowly his anxiety is going away, I am making it sound fun, here he has no friends, there, if we move into this house, we are moving in a neighboorhood of houses where there is a lot of kids I hear, so hopefully, here is hope, that this will do a lot for him and Rachel.

I am not sure if I be able to post again before I leave, but I promise I will let you all know when we get there and settled. And offcourse I will let you know the town we end up in.

Thanks all hope you all doing good.
hugs

matika

[GinaMarie]

I hope you get the house and that everything goes SMOOTHLY. :) Im glad the kids are handling it smoothly so far and that you will have your mom to help you. :)

Will be waiting for you to get settled and hear all about it.

GM

[Keggy]

Good luck Beckster! Hope it all goes smoothly!

[Kristen (ColeysMom)]

Good Luck!!!

I remember moving here when Coley was just 19mos old. We only had him, but he was at his worst...no sleeping, no eating, screaming all day...and then the whole transition thing...it was scary enough to stay where we were almost...but we had the same things to think about, a yard, some friends, school...

It was really hard, so with more kids, I can imagine your stress...plus the extra emotion about the marriage. My thoughts are with you...I'll be praying that the right house, in the right neighborhood, with the right friends, at the right time, comes to your family!

I'll be crossing everything until we hear your next update!!!

[matika]

Thanks all.
Last night I received the phone call I was waiting about the house. I got it and we will be leaving Oregon on Friday morning.
My kids have Monday and Tuesday off, and they will be going to school on Wednesday and Thursday then that will be all.
I am sad to let go of the school here because they have done so good with my kids. But hope and pray that the school in California will have much better services for my kids, things we don't get here because of the size of the school district and funding, but then again, schools are hurting for funds everywhere.
Anywho, I will come back after we move in and let you know how it all went.
Until then.

matika

[Kristen (ColeysMom)]

:D Crossing everything for a smooth transition!

I can't wait for your update! :D

[GinaMarie]

Matika,
I just went to a CAC meeting on IEP's and one thing the suggested that might help or might not with such a short time with your move but might try IF you already know what schools the kids are going to is on Monday Fax their IEP's to the school ahead of time before the kids get there so they have time to look them over and know ahead of time what to expect and what they will need when they will get there. Not sure if they are open Monday or Tues (my younger two dont have school Monday or Tues but my high schooler does have school on Monday). IF you know the number then fax it on Monday then they will have it first thing on Wed and have the rest of the week to go over them.

Also call ahead and let them know about the move and when you will be registering them and that you are faxing the IEP's ahead of time. Start out with good communication with them.

I hope this helps. I learned quite a bit of things that I didnt know and I've been doing IEP's with the boys since they started school and now Adam will be going in high school in Aug. :eek: :rolleyes:.

Im so glad you got the house and I hope the move goes smoothly.

HUGS,
GM

[milivica]

From everything you've said in the past and now, I think this move is going to be great for you and the kids. The move will initiate a chain reaction of positives coming your way, you'll make it so! I hear great things about schools in California (we're in Wisconsin) having services we here don't and have to fight for (and still don't get!). I pulled the kids and moved here 8 years ago hoping for a better life for Vince, we meant to only stay 2 years and go back, but loved it so much (other than one year) we stayed. It turned out better than we could have known when we first decided to move. That's going to happen for you and the kids too, you'll make it so, you will.

Hey, ya know how I say I can 'hear' your accent when you type here? Well, I just got a funny flash in my mind of you and Arnold Schwartzenager (your new Gov!) having a chat, hee hee.

My prayers, love, hopes and excitement for you and the kids on your move are with you hermanita!

[matika]

Hello all.
I am finally moved in my new home and settling down, ok not my new home, I am renting, but it feels like mine, all mine lol.

Kids first day of school was yesterday and poor Rachel's first day was a dissaster, the IEP was not very specific, as she been on that one school all her educational years, they knew what she needed and they failed to put in there her needing constant suppervision and needing a 1 on 1, there for, they first wanted her in a regular classroom with no supervision, I told them no, so making long story short, they placed her in an intermediate classroom which it's not right for her, she needs to be in a more specific classroom for kids to that degree. After yesterday's events, they where getting in touch with their central office for permission to have an emergency IEP meeting, so hopefully today or tomorrow this will happen, she just can't be on that classroom. All together, I believe this change is going to be good for all, since whe will get much better support here then she did in Oregon, not that the school was not good, is they had limited resources.

Joshua ended up in a regular classroom, which he was in Oregon the same way, but here seems that he will be qualifying for the intermedium classroom that Rachel was placed yesterday, which I believe will be much better for him. He came home happy however, he had a good first day of school.

Since I been here, I been running around in 10 different directions all at once. Has been the biggest move of my life on my own,, so much to move, to pack and unpack, so many services to change, so much stuff to do, all the calls, all of it, last night I went to bed early and I passed out so fast lol.

On the good side for me, I managed to meet a gentleman that we where in touch with via e-mail through a dating service, so we met and he seems so nice, we seen each other 2 times and plan on seen each other once a week for now until after the first of the year. So I guess you can add this to my pile of ups and downs lately, I am officially dating ;)

Thanks all for your thoughts and prayers, I feel that this is all going to be the begginning of a good life change experience for my family.

Blessings for now.

beky