I'm so upset . . .

[always-aching]

My best friend's son committed suicide last night. I have to go to her & help her thru this horrible tragedy.

[Alyssa]

I am so so sorry for the tragedy and loss of your best friend's son. My prayers are with you all. You are truly a dear person to step in and offer your support at a time like this for your friend.

God Bless You!
Alyssa

[Sadness]

I'm so very very sorry. Your poor friend and her poor son. Be gentle with her and with yourself as you face this horrible grief. You will be in my thoughts.

Hugs
B

[Buttons2]

Always-aching, this is a horrid experience to go through-I know. First is the total shock of it all. Then the guilt. The anger.

Please come back & let us help you to help your friend. It helps to know you are not alone in your grief....

Big cyber hug for you & let the tears flow. I'm so very sorry for this happening in your life!

Take care,Buttons

[always-aching]

Gosh, the wake and funeral are over. My friend is so emotionally drained and I am worried about her. She has so many questions about why her son would do something like this. My friend told me her son never gave her any indications that he was contemplating suicide. On outward appearances, he had everything to live for. Never in her wildest dreams would she have ever thought he could do something like this.

My friend was frantic on Tuesday when she couldn't get a hold of her son. Him not contacting her was just so out of character for him. She left work and went home hoping to get in touch with him. We live in a rural area and there is a river which runs behind all of our houses. She went outside searching for him because his car was in her driveway with the keys in it. She walked down by the river and found him and it was too late, he was already gone. Her husband is a retired Marshal and her son took her husband's gun and killed himself.

He left a note which my friend is waiting to read. The note is in the possession of the Sheriff's Department. He has two small children, five and two. His daughter who is five asked me on Saturday if I knew her daddy died. She also asked me if I knew how he died. I didn't tell her anything other than that her daddy loved her very much. How do you explain something like this to a five year old child? I don't understand and I cannot expect a five year old to understand it.

We are just so stunned that this happened. Please keep my friend and her family in your prayers.

[Buttons2]

I wish I had an answer for you & your friend. My brother-in-law also shot himself & left behind a 2 yr old son & 5yr old daughter. I left immediately to be there for my niece,was with her through the ceremony & at the gravesite. I'll never forget the look on her small face. My sister was so sedated she wasn't even aware of what was happening. That's my experience-just to let you know I've been through this...

Looking back (this was over 20 yrs ago), I'd have to say the biggest mistake was NOT seeking counseling right away. We can be there & provide support,but....we are not professional grief counselors & I really believe this is a time to bring in the experts. Find a local support group,any means of dealing with this tragedy. Why....cause the kids will never understand why their daddy left them,how could he do this TO them? They must understand THEY are not to blame!

So please help your friend find support. The shock will wear off & then the reality will hit & it might leave this family in chaos forever.

Hugs & prayers to you & the family. Also hoping the suicide note will provide some insight into this. My heart goes out to the mother & all the family.

Take care,Buttons

[always-aching]

It's hard to believe it's been over a month since my friend's son took his life. My friend and I are employed by the same entity and she returned to work today. She didn't have to come back today cause her boss is very understanding, but she said she needed to focus on something else.

My friend has indicated they are seeking counseling. They also spoke with their Priest on Saturday. Her youngest boy (15 yrs old), was extremely close to his brother. He's starting to question his faith and why something this horrific happened.

As I mentioned before, my friend and I live in a rural community, we're 2 doors apart. The neighbor that lives between us expressed that he can't go down to the river anymore because of the circumstances. I wish he would not have said that to my friend.

I know Thanksgiving was hard on the family, and now with Christmas coming up, I hope they can get through it. My friend and I are tentatively supposed to get together on Saturday. I think it will do her good to get out of the house. If she cancels, that's OK, I'll understand. I won't force her to do anything she's not ready to do.

Please keep her in your prayers.

[Buttons2]

Your friend is fortunate to have you there for her. This is a time for you to listen if she wants/needs to talk. Hoping the brother can find a way to keep his faith, there really aren't any answers sometimes.

Yes, the holidays are ruined now for this family, it's the little ones that will bring whatever joy there can be this year....

So tragic, prayer's being said.....

Take care,Buttons

[clouds z]

i can hardly read these stories anymore

what can i say?id be so angry

sorry he died