This one involves family

[lor]

I still don't get this one...my bro has 2 dd's. He called me one time & said he didn't know if he'd be able to cook the Xmas (or was it T-giving?) turkey at our dad's. I told him he could do it here & he started yelling & yelling (I told him we need not yell, I'd be quite & listen to him then how bout if he's quite & I listen to him. I 'bit my tongue' & listened then he wouldn't listen to me...started yelling again.) I later talked to my sis & she told me he told her that I simply want cook the holiday dinner all the time. I told my sis I hate to. Since one bro visits dad I feel I should invite him (I do want to cook for dad cuz he deserves it after raising me & 3 others, with just my grandma & I love him). Since I invite bro #1 I feel I should invite bro #2. Two dd's come with him. Then theres my DH's dad who lives alone. And we have 4. That's TEN! But, her & I talked & she suggested what I was thinking, just forget it because Family is More Important than a turkey. I called him the next day & appoligised.

[tic chick]

lor,

your brother shouldn't have yelled at you. this thing could have been resolved with no yelling and some compromise.

i don't know what's the main issue here? is it who does the cooking? who specifically cooks the turkey? or whose house is dinner at?

perhaps you can alternate whose house dinner is at among the people who have enough room for everybody. perhaps you can take turns cooking the turkey and then everybody else could bring the side dishes. you also could alternate who cooks the whole dinner, if some people like to be responsible for the whole thing.

why don't you email each of your siblings and see what they would like to do before this thanksgiving comes around. you can all have a say that way and some people will get what they want some of the time.

you can invite your dad anytime for a sunday or other weekday meal, if you want to show your love for him and cook for him.

(((hugs)))
jeannie

[Nana4&cntn]

lor,

My family has grown from 4 to 17, the only place big enough is my oldest sons home also they don't have cats and my oldest grandson is deathly allergic to them. So each year I cook the turkey and dressing, and everyone else brings the sides, pies, etc. I know this is a different system than you have, but I wanted to share. It works very well for the past several years!

I do hope you have a wonderful and peaceful Thanksgiving.

Take care,
Kathy