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stef80
08-27-2008, 04:56 AM
I haven't been in here before but my dad has been an alcoholic for 35 years (plus or minus a couple years here and there)
Heres a wee bit of history....my mom and dad had me later in their lives, she was 38 and he was 55....(i am 28 now)
he started drinking because of his job (master engineer of Air Canada so if something went wrong it was on his head---yup high pressure job)
and then well he had me and my sis to contend with (shes about 4 years older)
so he was totally retired when we moved out west here...when i was 1....
then he was a househusband/father...
since my mom worked out east (she would work 2-6 weeks and be home 2-8 weeks unless we went on vacation and then she would be with us till the end of the trip then stay in toronto when we came back over here)
anyway....it has been hard even having an older dad but also an alcoholic and he had prostate cancer when i was 12 (he still gets shots in his belly when his PSA is high)
Now his memory is failing faster and also hes having a bad time with his glaucoma since the drops he was on, he had a bad adverse reaction to and now on less effective drops so hes in pain a whole lot and sleeps a lot too...
i dunno its just real hard dealing with all this...
and back when i was a teen i thought it was hard waking him up to eat dinner while my sis partied and my mom was away....
how things change hey??
well that is my story...well part of it...
i hope all are doin ok
take it easy and take care
*hug*hug

houghchrst
08-30-2008, 02:13 PM
Steph just wanted to stop and say hi and give you a big hug

(((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))

stef80
08-30-2008, 07:55 PM
thank you for the hugs...*hug*hug
i still find it hard to deal with this situation since when i see him i see the pain and irritation and frustration and i can't do anything about it...
my head can't wrap around this very well...
i just think of when i was a kid and thinking wow adulthood just looks so far away and now i am here with my dad not doin well and its hard to accept all of this....
it was sorta easier when i was severely depressed since then i just didn't care and now i do care and things are worse (like with my dad and stuff)
i don't want him to die but i don't want him in pain and losing his memory...
its just hard ya know?
well hope all are doin good today
take care
*hug*hug