Picc Lines And Sensuality

[TigerMoon]

Hi all,been through several board names,and just popping in to rant about something!!

After several years of IVIG sticks,my home nursing company decides they won't infuse me anymore unless I do something about getting a port or a picc.

Well,my neurologist will not allow me to get a port,so I got this picc for a few months.

My rant is: this has just about put a hold on my sex life. I have been just getting intimate with someone over several months. And he is just getting used to the idea of me having a chronic illness. Now I have this dangly little tube(sometimes it doesn't dangle it's wrapped up in netting)

And he is worried about having sex with me. Maybe it's just fear of the unknown or he's worried about hurting me(which he should be,if he loves me!!)
I am even afraid to let him see me naked with a fatty right arm. I mean how sexy is that?:mad:

I am just trying to adjust,how can I make him feel comfortable to even try to be intimate?

[tic chick]

dear tigermoon *smallrose,

this is really the pits.

you have to tell him that he can't hurt you physically unless he pulls out the picc line (would that be right?).

i think some concealment is necessary here to maybe be a bit mysterious and inviting to him. dress up in nice nighties and sit on the couch and watch sexy movies, (yeah, you can get them at you local, non-chain rental store). there are even erotic toy sites on the internet that have sexy, caring movies where the plot is 2 people in love and soft music and caring ways of showing love. maybe if you google, you can find a movie where people with obstacles to making love do make love.

or you could try humor. cover your picc line with black netting and wear black net stockings to carry out the theme. be creative. i don't know how far you are willing to go, but if your guy sees you are adventurous and desire to be intimate, i am sure he would want to, also.

there are ways where you can be in control of making love where you could know what to do to avoid hurting yourself.

i would try the humor first. be as outrageous as you can. play nurse, have him play doctor. once he sees you are not afraid, he will be less afraid, too.

i hope you can find something to let you share your intimacy with this special man.

jeannie *bunch