My wife died today

[bewolf]

My wife Known here as 'Rap' died today. Her real name is Anne.

http://brain.hastypastry.net/forums/attachment.php?attachmentid=2037&d=1217106934

This is us on our Wedding Day. ( to my American friends the date is 8th June )

She died in hospital at 18:25 Local time.

She leaves behind her mother Margaret, and her son Connor aged 12 and me, real name Jim

May she rest in peace and at long last be out of pain.

Born 10th July 1966 died 26th July 2008.

Rest well my love.

[houghchrst]

Bewolf I am so sorry. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.

[LIZARD]

((((((((((Bewolf))))))))))). :(

My heart goes out to you, your son, and your MIL. :( Hugs and prayers being sent.


*hug *hug *hug


LIZARD :(

[LindaQuilts]

Jim, I am so sorry for you loss. You, Anne, Margaret, and Connor will be in my prayers.

[Pamster]

Oh Jim, you have my deepest sympathies and condolances during this terrible time. I am so terribly sorry for your loss and you and your family are in my prayers. ((((((Jim))))))

[Nana4&cntn]

I am so sorry for your and your family's liss! Jim, you have always been a rock for folks, I am sending you condolences and ((((((((((hugs)))))))))))). I just wish there was more I could do!

Love and gentle hugs,
Kathy

[CoolAngel28]

*hug *hug...

You,your son,and your mother-in-law are in my thoughts and prayers...

Kristin

[Gimpy]

I'm so sorry Jim, such a terrible loss I am sure.

I will be thinking of you as it breaks my heart to hear these things.

Hugs, Linda

[suemck2]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Be kind and gentle with yourself and your loved ones during this time of grief. I will keep you, Margaret, and Connor in my prayers.
Sue

[Mark N]

Jim, I am sorry that you are dealing with the death of your wife. I hope the thought of her being out of pain alleviates some of your sense of loss. I will keep you in my thoughts as you console your son and you deal with your own pain.

[stef80]

*hug*hug*hug*hug

[Chat Moderator #1]

Oh wolfie, my chat room friend, I am so sorry. I have known you a long time and how you stayed up all night taking care of Anne (Rap to us) and chatting with us.

I am in shock and in tears, for you and connor and her mother. I know how hard it was for you to see her in so much pain all the time. Now she is in pain no more.

Please take care of yourself thru this time of grief. You know where I am if you want to chat.

Hugs, to my chat room buddy for a long time *hug

CM #1

[GardeniaGirl]

I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my thoughts and meditations. Please take good care of yourself.

GG

[spondygurl1]

I am so sorry to hear of your wife's death. Please know you will be in our thoughts and prayers.

[Lavandula Canadensis]

dear bewolf,
special thoughts, prayers and flowers from lavandula in canada
2042

[Nathan]

((((((((HUGS)))))))) Bewolf.

I am so sorry to hear this. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Nathan

[mainepain]

I am so sorry to hear this sad news :(

My condolences to you and your family

[Bobbi]

My deepest sympathy to you, your family and hers.

I'm so sorry.

[Diandra]

Dear Jim,
Such incredibly sad news. I am so sorry you lost your beautiful Anne.
Sending heartfelt condolences and a hug.
Diandra

[suede]

My heartfelt sympathy to you and yours, as Mark said knowing at long last she is no longer suffering may help bring peace to you. You all will remain in my thoughts.
Linda

[Mary Diane]

and your family for the loss of your other half. Although it will seem strange that she is not here with you, know that she really IS here with you, still taking care of you, guarding and guiding. *cg09

As your guardian angel, she will still be loving you, and taking care of you, just as she always has, just in a different way.

God bless you and hugs,

Mary Diane *cg06

[Kathi49]

Jim,

I am sorry to hear of your loss. My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family.

[sleepy]

I'm so sorry for your loss. May your memories of her comfort you and your family. Judy

[linniec]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Linnie

[lisa6wks]

Jim,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

Lisa

[slipnslide]

Jim,

My condolences to you and your family.

God Bless,

Kim

[welsh]

Thinking of all you all during this sad time Jim, here for you if ever you need to talk, take care and please stay in touch with us all here at BT. Demi

[Rozia]

So sorry to hear of this . Prayers sent your way . What did she die of?? To young to be gone . RM

[911]

Jim , i am so sorry for your loss but i think you were right in that she may now be pain free , as along as i have known you she has been in pain and i know to one degree or another you have felt it along with her , may god bless her and your family , please stay in touch wolfie,,,,,,,,,,,,,, Dave

[Jo6]

Jim, I am ever so sorry for your loss. I remember when you came on board here at BT. We talked more back then, but you get used to our BT friends and they truly are family. I knew that Anne was gravely ill, but I didn't realize it was this far along. Please forgive me for not being more active in your days of preparing for this day. You are a good caregiver.

You also have your own illness, please let us know if we can help. Anne is a beautiful young lady. Way to young to go to her resting place. We never know what to say, but know I am praying for you as well as your son and other family.

Please let us know if we can help. May God welcome Anne with open arms.

My love to you, Jim (((( HUGS)))) Julia

[sandi1016]

Bewolf,
My deepest sympathy on the loss of your beloved. She is still with you all, still watching over you and your family.
Blessings to you all,
Sandi M

[bewolf]

Thanks to all that have posted here, Bless you.

To Rozia, We do not know what she died of. We will have to wait for the post mortem results.

The trouble is Rozia is that we do not know what she suffered FROM.

I first came here in the late 90's Trying to get information on what was causing Anne's pain.

In those days I tended to go forum to forum trying to read up on symptoms trying to learn trying to find out. I would use knowledge gained here to questions doctors and consultants, suggest tests, suggest possible diagnoses ... all to NO avail.

Anne would scream some nights that neighbours would call the police because they thought I was hurting her. The local A&E department knew us by our first names

I was unable even to touch her let alone give her a cuddle because it would cause her more pain.

I can't write any more at the moment.

[Mark N]

Jim, I remember you coming on brain talk searching for what was wrong with Anne. I remember the post about neighbors thinking you were hurting her because of her cries of pain. I thank you for letting us know about her death as I know it is difficult to think of anything but your loss. Don't forget that we are here and willing to give you any support you need.

[debhun]

Jim I am so so very sorry for your loss. I don't know you for I have only been here a year now. It took a lot out of you to let us know who didn't know what really was going on. May God be with you and your family in this time of your life. Knowing that your wife is not in any more pain. You are a man with deep feelings and Passion for your wife.

May God carry you though these tough days.

Hugs
Deb

[Naominjw]

I am so very, deeply, sorry for your loss.

-"Naomi"

[jimac]

Jim,

I am so sorry for your loss.

May God be with you.
Jim

[cindybear]

so so sorry for your loss,...I just hope she had a good pain docter at her side..I know she allready had a a great compassionate partner...She was blessed..Know she is i n a gargen of angels and she is shining bright..Smiling..Full of laughter. No pain. Looking down at her loved ones knowing in her heart, that you will take care of her mother and son..Hugs, Cindy

[Leeaelle]

Dearest Jim ~ I've been offline for a few days, so I just read about your dear wife's passing. I am SO very sorry for your loss. Gosh, how I wish something could have been done to spare her the suffering! I've never heard of such a thing. Bless your heart, if EVER you need to talk, don't hesitate to let me know. I've lost a spouse too ~ my husband died in 2001 just 12 short of our 1st anniversary. My prayers are with you and your family. God bless. Hugs, Lee

[REVELZ]

I know this is late, but I've only just been allowed to post, but I hurried over here to offer my sincere condolences. Bewolf, I have just sat for a few minutes and gathered my thoughts, I have gone over and kissed my sleeping wife and took a few minutes to appreciate what I have and to try to put myself in your shoes and to think what you must be feeling, I am not ashamed to say that I have a tear or two rolling down my face as I type, my heart goes out to you, and i hope you have some good friends and relatives to help you through this time. I cannot and wont pretend to know what you are going through, all I can send is my deepest sympathy and love from a fellow braintalk poster.

[NJPain]

Few months ago I had to watch as they put my long time best friend down. Worst day of my life.

Not to compare a dog to a human but, my dog really was my best friend for 12 years and I truely feel blessed to have owned her.

After she was gone I was VERY depressed but I discovered something. When I told people what happend to Lexus, other people told me stories about how they had to have their pets put down and it actually made me feel a little better. Knowing that there are people out there sharing the same kind of horrible feelings I was.

You are definitely not alone in this world as far as losing someone you really love. Let that notion comfort you and let her life be a source of strength for the rest of yours. God bless and take care.

[Sunshine2]

((((((((hugsssss)))))))))) to you.....my condolences on your loss........

[Nana4&cntn]

Jim, just checking in to see how you are doing? I know this is a time of deep sorrow for you, Connor and your MIL. I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers and know Anne is watching over all of you, and is no longer in pain.

Take care,
Kathy

[Mark N]

Jim, like Kathy I was just checking in to see if there is an up-date by you. This may be a tough time for you and your family, I hope you come here when you could use another sympathetic ear. I am keeping you, the family, and Anne in my prayers. I hope the blessing of being with her for a while is the feeling that is coming through. What we are missing, when we lose a close loved one, makes it easy to overwhelm the joy they brought into our lives. I hope you feel that joy from time to time as you go through this tough time.

[neckbaby]

I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.
Take care of yourself,
Neckbaby

[simby]

i am so sorry for your loss.

[DiMarie]

Bewolf
I am so very sorry for your loss. My prayers are with your family and know you all have such wonderful memories of good times to keep dear. Anne, travel with the Angels now and soar in our hearts.
Dianne

[Smiling Angel]

I'm so sorry for your loss. May God bless and comfort all of you.

[bewolf]

Thank you all for your kindness.

Although My wife never posted here she knew I did and supported me in finding anything out about her condition.

I used to go to the chat rooms a lot (when they worked) and I would tell hyer all about the people here and what was going on, she felt as if she knew people here and considered BT as her cyber home. :D

The update on her funeral is that it will happen at 2PM BST ( = 9AM EST ) on 20th August.

If you could just think of us around that time, we would like to think that our BT family where with us in spirit.

Namaste (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YcgNJ7cgDVs)

[jtroy]

bewolf: I just saw your post and thought I'd also post my condolonces to you as well. I am so sorry that you lost your wife...I just don't know how I 'd go on through this old world without my wife. If there is every anything I can do for you certainly don't hesitate to let me know....my email is: tjandfon@hotmail.com.......You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Regards,

T. Jones, DVM

[shotspine]

Bewolf.....
I apologize for my belated response. My sincerest sympathy goes out to you and her family. I hope that you find some comfort knowing that she is now pain free and able to fly free with the angels. She will be watching over you so be Good to Yourself as that is what she would wish for you.

Many blessings!!

shotspine

[911]

Wolfie, i will certainly be thining of you and rap on the 20th , we ( sandra and i ) send our condolances to you and your family as we know the loss personaly , we just lost her dad about 2 weeks ago and just yesterday got home from the funeral but like rapp he is in a better pain free place , i do not pretend to know all of the pain she suffered but i know the pain i deal with on a daily basis and it had to be bad so i would prefer to think of rap being in a place that is pain free and she is now able to do all those things she couldnt before , so my best wishes to you and your family,,,,,,,,, Dave D_Turnbull@msn.com

[Diandra]

Dear Jim,
I will definitely be saying a special prayer and will be with you in spirit on
August 20th at 9am. I think of you and Anne every single day. Thank you for
sharing that beautiful Namaste video.

God Bless You and Anne's entire circle of family and friends,
Diandra
*cg07

[Diandra]

Hi Jim,
Just wanted you to know we are thinking of you. I was away on Aug. 20th but did say a little prayer that day. Can only imagine what you must be going through now. Please let us know how you are.
God Bless You,
Diandra

[mrsdoubtfyre]

Please accept my belated condolences--I have been offline on vacation in
a remote area all summer. I just got back yesterday.

I am so sorry for your loss. You and your wife made a lovely couple.

[bewolf]

Thank you again for your kind words and thoughts.

I am getting used to being a single parent abit more now, (The cub is 12...13 on the 26th).

So it is new to us all really... I am very lucky to have a very supportive MIL, she is a great help.

At the funeral I felt that we were being thought of from across the pond, it made me feel good that our cyber friends were with us.

I will pop in here every now and again to see how folks are getting on.

Jim aka Bewolf

[Mark N]

Jim, it is good to hear from you. I am glad you could feel all our thoughts and prayers coming your way. It is good news that your MIL is such a help and a good support. I know you already understand to enjoy each day as a dad because one day you will become a "friend", as dad isn't needed any longer. I am in the transition period as my daughter is in college and my son is growing up with a couple years of high school left. My daughter is developing into my friend as she develops into an adult that makes her own decisions and deals with the consequences herself.

The remaining years will go quickly. My son was spending a day with a friend and I commented to my wife that in a couple years the house would be just ours as it was that day. It will be a big adjustment so enjoy the time together before you are a dad at home alone waiting for your "friend" to call or stop by.

[houghchrst]

Jim just wanted to stop in and say hi and let you know I was thinking of you and sending out lots of prayers for you and yours.

[Karen_Marietta]

Dear Jim,

I truly can't imagine how bereft you must feel right now. Seeing that picture of you and Anne on your wedding day conjured up so many images of life, hope, happiness and well, just all the good things that life has to offer and how quickly they can also be taken away.

How are YOU doing? Please let us know.

[Nana4&cntn]

Jim,

It is good to hear from you! Being a single parent is challenging under the best of circumstances, but I believe you will do well. It is nice that your mil is near to help when things get tough! I am sure your son will and does have many questions regarding Anne and her death. Again I know you will have the answers to comfort him!

You are a compassionate and caring man, I know life will be good to you. Anne will be with you in spirit to help you when you need it.

Take care,
Kathy

[turtle12]

Jim, you are all in my heart and prayers......................turtle12

[hoops2u]

Bewolf,

I am so very sorry. Speaking of pain, there is no pain quite like this, the pain of loss of your Beloved. Put yourself first, take care of you, be good to you, love you.

Thank you for sharing with us, here. We (I) do care. Such a great group of folks here and you are one, also. You, too, have helped many, now we get to give just a little back.

God Bless you Dear One. You and your family are in my prayers.

Warm regards,
dr. d