Please help me deal with my dad

[nortona]

My father was in a motorcycle accident about 15 years ago. When he was in ICU, and we didn’t know if he was going to make it thought the night, I said to him, “Dad you can’t die, who will walk me down the aisle when I get married.” Well, he survived, but has trouble controlling his emotions. He could get very angry and start screaming, he is also very impatient. In 3 months, I’m getting married, and my family thinks I’m crazy, because I want him to be there for my wedding. Are there any drugs out there, which would calm him down?

[sarahin]

Hi Notona,
Sorry to hear about your father. I think it is great that you want him at your wedding. I put a few links down that I hope will help. I only have a learning deficit from my TBI. Hope some one else that knows more about your stituation relpies to your post.
Sarahin

http://main.uab.edu/tbi/show.asp?durki=50770#Medications
http://www.tbihelp.org/chatlog-20-8-2001.html
http://main.uab.edu/tbi/show.asp?durki=50770

[hummer]

Dear Nortona....
I have a TBI and can not take medication at all because it effects my mental function...in adverse ways....

There is a product available in every health food store in the world....it is called Bach Flower Remedies....they have a web site where you could read about it....I have made and given them away for over 35 years....they work they are made from the distillization of flowers....they work for healing by working through your emotions....if you check on the web site it will give you a list of the remedies and then the kind of emotions they help you deal with...

when choosing you kind of look at the negative aspect of the emotion....that is what is apparent, when you look to choose, what would be benificial to you, or your father.....the concept is that the corrasponding remedy floods you with the positive and brings you back into balance....they have been around for close to 100 years now....I think....they cause NO interaction with medications and you can't cause harm from the ingredients in any way....I can stand as a testimony that they work....on all kinds of people for all kinds of emotional problems....my own husband has a horrible time with his anger and temper issues and he will even come to me now, and ask me to make him some remedies when he gets overwhelmed.....

They just work on bringing you back into balance.....There is a quote from a psychiatrist and former New York City Commissioner of Mental Health that states: "The Bach Flower Remedies are extremely sophisticated in their action in that they are unusually gentle and at the same time profoundly potent in their effect. I use the Bach Flower Remedies almost exclusively instead of tranquillizers and psychotropics and I get very good results. In many cased they alleviate the problems where all else has failed."

That is one of my favorite passages, because think of the troubled people he has dealt with in New York City......you can take up to 6 remedies at the same time....It is certainly my belief that it is something that you could do to help your father for the rest of his life....not just for your wedding....by that same thinking....I hope you get them and he takes them and you have a beautiful wedding filled with loving memories........

Blessings to you....
Hummer

[Kevin Jackson]

well ,nortona if you go through my treads you will find that psycological systems play a big roll in TBI. the reason I think this is so is because of the damage to the central nervous system. which is the main frame for our body. a lot of us tend to think this is not the world we remembered before the TBI. and it seems so hard to be understood. the world didn't change. we just did,nt change with it during our TBI awakining. we know what where saying but it seems no one else does or understands. slow and easy with your pop. let him know hes still the same man but their are some qurks,gliches so to speak in the main frame of the mind. thats the hardest part. the realition there is a problem. when at times it seems alls well, its not. medication serve wel,l but you have to work with them. most won't tell you that part. not worth a heck to take something and think thats it,alls well,I'm healed. NOT!!!!!! I can't say this enough. Theirs nothing wrong with the statue ou the man he was before. The carericter of the satute of the man is the problem.
BEST WISHES:cool:

[brainandspinalcord]

Nortona-
Unfortunately it is very common to experience behavior problems after TBI (http://www.brainandspinalcord.org/coping-traumatic-brain-injury/patient-behavior-tbi/index.html). These include problems with anger (http://www.brainandspinalcord.org/coping-traumatic-brain-injury/anger-depression/index.html) and depression.
How does your dad feel about it? If he would talk to his doctor about it, he might be able to come to some conclusion that would allow all of you to enjoy the special day.
best of luck
amy

[brainandspinalcord]

I also wanted to second the flower remedies- "rescue remedy" is very popular and I've used it on children and pets as well, with great results.

[zoso a.k.a Neil]

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Good luck with your special day , you deserve it to be wonderful as you will remember it for ever.
Of course you want your Dad there and i know he would not miss it for the world.
I am in your Dad's shoes ; i had a tbi and i have a daughter of marriageable age
and when and if she weds i will be there and iam sure she will have the same concerns about me as i have a history of freaking out or going off on one at the very worst times.No one can know how close i am to screaming due to the pain and frustration that i am constantly in , so when what seems to anyone else to be the slightest most trivial thing can be the last straw that breaks the camels back.Or you could say events tap into a deeper vein.
Rescue remedy is good but i always found it made me fancy a brandy as unless you search for it suspended in water , it is usually suspended in brandy.
Ideally if you could arrange a full aromatherapy massage for him sometime before the event or just some directly applied or even just the smell of chamomile on a hankey or something always has a calming effect.
What ever makes him relaxed.The holy herb always works for me .
May the best you ever hope for be the worst you ever see.
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