Hello

[msmarymac]

Hi,

I am a new member to this community and would like to say hello to everyone. I had a brain surgery for an aneurysm in August 2007 and I now feel as if I am just a shell of a person. I have read several of the posts here and find myself crying and sympathizing with all.

Mary-Illinois

[Jeanne D]

Welcome, I think that you need to give your self some time to heal. Brain surgery is a big deal and recovery comes on it's own terms. So, give yourself some love. You are not just a shell of person, you are someone who has gone through an epic change in your life. You are your own hero.
Jeanne

[jess2002]

Hi there Mary you are still really early on it will get better. Jess.xx

[FireflyR7]

*bunch Welcome to the site!! There are some very wonderful people here, very supportive!! I am sorry to hear about your anuerysm sweetie but, it really does take time and does get better. I am almost 3 years post rupture and still in recovery but, I have come such a long way!! :) I am glad you found this site, it is like a family to me!! I hope you will join us posting now.

*smallrose It is normal to feel the way you are, most of us do or have. :o
We all just have to learn to deal with it in our own ways and time. We all understand how you feel and know what you are going through. You are a survivor and will get better in time sweetie!
Do you take and med's? Many of us are on anti depressants and still emotional, we have all been through brain trauma. It is normal to go through a wide range of emotions following any kind of brain injury. This is a good place to come!! I have made so many friends here and I am sure you will too!! ;)
I live in Missouri, I will have to Private message you and find out how far you live from me. A bunch of us women from St. Louis are going to meet and hang out some where this summer!!! :D You are welcome to come when we figure it out? Cindy / "Goldie" is coming from Iowa. It is going to be so cool!! Some of us have met or talk on the phone a lot too. We e-mail pic's to each other...
I hope you will start coming here and meeting some of these wonderful people
because you are not a shell of a woman!!! You are just "shell shocked" and need other people who understand what you have been through to talk to sometimes!! We are the only ones who truly understand!!! ;) We will try to help you with anything we can sweetie! I hope you will come join us more. Take care and keep us posted. Tricia

*cg20 Lord, please bless Mary.
Lord, please help her to find her new self and touch her with your healing hands. Thank you Lord, for hearing our prayers so many times before. I know we are asking for several new people who have just joined us Lord. Please be with them all and help them through this. Let them feel our prayers and support. I ask these things in your name, Amen

[goldie411]

Welcome to the site. There is a lot of emotions that go with these annie's. I think we've all felt them. This is totally normal. Things do get better. Coming to this site has really helped me deal with all my emotions. Hope it helps you too...take care

[coper]

Hi, you sound so sad. I think you are moving into the depression stage of the healing process. Please go and see your Dr. It doesn't have to be like this. I went through a few months like you describe and it was the onset of depression.

[kc_dawn]

Hi Mary...Welcome to the site! You will find great advice here.My moms rupture was August 2007 also....It takes time for you to heal, she is still healing. When she thinks she isn't showing progress, i have to remind her of how far she has come. I'm sure if you think back, you will see just how much you've healed already and you will keep healing and getting better! Mom is on meds for depression, she had to get her dose changed a few times but it seemed to help:) Give yourself time to heal!! Keep your chin up:)

[kdog]

Welcome to this site Mary.....As you can see I am also new here. There are plenty of wonderful and supportive members here. I've learned alot here just
by reading the posts.......very informative. What I understand is that it takes
time for one to heal.....some longer than others. We are here for you:D



Diane:)

[Kitty]

Mary,
As others have already said, check with your primary care doctor regarding anti-depression meds. And try to be patient. I had such a time with that myself. I can't even spell patient :rolleyes:

If you are up and around and able to post on this forum, you are doing pretty good!!

I'll keep you in my prayers.

Kitty

[rmbing64]

Mary, you did not say if you also had a rupture and what kind of problems you are still having. I agree with checking with your doctor for an anti-depressant. It is a life-changing event and we have very little control over things but I feel like I just have to keep going forward, even though I am nt too happy with the hand that I have been dealt. It will get better and you will learn the best ways to cope with the deficits that you have. This board provides an amazing amount of support. It is great just finding others like yourself. Hang in there. It gets easier. Rose

[cindybear]

Hi Mary,
Nice to meet ya, I have had my aneurysm since 2001, and it is still inoperable,,Luck of the draw,,There is like 2 or 8 percent that can not have any surgery, related to the location, or the shape of the aneurysm...Mine being both...I did have a attempt in 2005, and it caused a stroke, but I am luckily still alive...Daily for 7 years I have horrible headpain...That I have to take 2 different types of narcotics to get through the day, I also take anti-depression meds, they surely do help...The one thing that helped me more than anything was after my surgery, was that I accepted me and my new self and fate, whatever it may be,,,I live each day, and I do not thank of tomorrow...It is the only way I know how to do it now, otherwise I wpould be so depressed about what I have lost and really we are so lucky to be alive..I have had this since I was 38 years old, I just turned 46..I thought these years would be my years for fun and doing exciting thing after all my children grew up..But I was so very wrong,,,I just had to change my views a little..Hugs hun, Cindy