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matika
04-11-2008, 01:50 AM
Hi all.
It's been a while since I posted, I seem to stay busy, and forget about coming in. I do think about it often, just between working, kids, etc, etc, all the usual escuses, and then some, I don't get around to come in.
I feel I neglected you all, but I do care much for all, you all have been part of my life since my daughter got dx with autism.
Thought I give a quick update while I am at it.
I will be selfish and start with me lol.

Been still working in Second Life, my income has increased to where I make more then my husband does, it has improbed quality of everything around here, including health for me since I can actually afford medical for me.
I am a self aclaimed grafic designer, and am happy with my journey and the results, will continue to move forward on this.

Joshua is 9 now, you believe my baby is so big. He is your typical little Brain of a guy, he speaks with such big words like "as a matter of fact" and "That is Ridiculous" and so on and so fort. He is reading very fluently now, and he keeps moving forward. Has been on Adderall for a few months now and it has made a great difference on him, he is able to be more calm at school and concentrate on learning and just been more tolerable as he used to spend most of his time on the floor. I can say I am so very inlove with him in a mom=son kind of way hehe, he is so precious and ding it, he is smart lol.
I did not enroll him on any sports this year as I needed a break from what happened last year, it was chaos during soccer, he is such a bad looser, but that is starting to change, so we will leave that for next year if God allows.

Rachel, she is almost as tall as Joshua, she has gained a great deal of weight, gone from my skinny little girl to a round belly type, bless her heart, I wish I knew how to stop it, she can't seem to stay away from the refrigerator, in return, I find my self buyin less things that can contribute to her weight gain, and more healthy, less fat and calorie filled things. Dannon light and fit yogurt has been added to our regular shopping list.
She has issues with Self injury, her arms are badly scared, and now if something upsets her badly, she picks at old scars and makes them bleed baldy, which in return she gets an even worse scar. Lately, I have seen her bite herself, I am affraid where this is leading. She can be so delightfull and colaborating, then she flips on me. I honestly do feel perhaps bi-polar might be an issue or schitzofrenia (spelling?? lol) with her in the future, because she is two people when comparing her good and her worst, and I know we all have it, but this is something I do not understand. I am waiting for a referal to a child therapist, but I can wait till the end of days and this don't seem to happen, I shall call tomorrow see where they are at it.

Other then that, she is learning to read at a very good pase, and she can say anything, just don't always chooses words to express her self.

I seem to be able to control her when we go to stores, even when she has a melt down and takes off running, she will stop at my command, but am affraid for the day she decides not to stop.

My marriage situation is not so good still, but I bite my toungue and go on with life as I have much to deal with at times. In that area, I do not know where i stand or where I am going, if anywhere.

I have a retreat planned for next September. A friend of mine want to go to a scrapbooking retreat that goes from a Thursday evening to Sunday morning, I am game, but she had recently suffered a heart attack, and her husband is quite ill and might turn worse by then, so if she cancels, I will just take a few days and drive up the coast from here.

Well, I think I raddled long enough.
I hope you all doing well, and your kids keep moving forward and blossom.
Many Blessings.

Beky

Oh yes, I forgot to mentioned,, I recently took Rachel off of Singular due to the things they said on the news about suicide. However, even if that is not true, seems that aggresion is an issue with this drog, and giving her self injury issues, I am wondering if there is a connection. She had them prior to the medication, but seems that it has gotten worse since she was on it. We shall see.

GinaMarie
04-11-2008, 02:21 PM
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Matika}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Im glad to see you pop in.

These kids grow up so fast dont they? Wow Joshua is 9 already? I love hearing about how well he is talking. They say the most interesting things dont they? ;)

Sorry your daughter is still having problems with self inflicting issues. I pray you can find help. Adam has mood swings where he can be so happy and then flip a switch and be mad or crying.. I've always thought of bipolar also but the doctors dont think so because he is so sweet with them. He also is so tall. He will be 13 in Aug and is already 5 ft 7 in. and weighs 114. He eats ALL the time also. I hope you can find out where the referral is at. Waiting can be so hard and frustrating.

Thats awesome about your job! It sounds great and great you love it so much. :) I hope you are able to go to the retreat.. I KNOW from experience getting away to retreats DOES help!! Sorry about the marriage. I know about that from experience also. I've been seperated for almost 6 yrs now. I would rather raise these boys singley than raise them with an emotionally abusive husband/father.

Dont be a stranger. You'll have to send an updated pic of the kids. :)

HUGS,
Gina Marie

matika
04-12-2008, 12:40 PM
Hi Gina.
I am heading to the beach this morning with the kids and taking my camera with me, I shall take a few snapshots and post a couple when I am back.
Thanks for your reply :)
Blessings
beky

Jamies Mommy
04-12-2008, 01:14 PM
Hi Beky,
Good to hear from you! I was wondering what happened to you. I'm glad to hear that financially things have improved for you. Sucks that your relationship with hubby hasn't.
The retreat sounds like fun I do hope you get to go and if not you do something else nice just for you! ((( Hugs)))

matika
04-13-2008, 03:23 AM
Hi JM
I will make some sort of retreat or another, even if it's not the one I have planned. Prior to that I was just going to drive up the coast go as far as I could travel in two days, then turn around and take it slow on the way back as well. But my friend came up with this idea, so we shall see, if she don't make it, I still will go up the coast on my own.

I took kids to the beach today and took some pictures, here is a couple.
You all have a great weekend.

beky

JungleWoman
04-14-2008, 02:36 PM
Hey Beky! Glad to hear you're doing good! How awesome that you're able to make such a good living in SL!!! I bet you're just loving being able to do that!!

My husband started his 3D modeling class this term and he's SO excited *and is SO good at it already!* I love to see artists getting the most out of their abilities!

Your kiddos are so cute!! It sounds like Joshua is doing really well-- not long ago you were really worried about him. Is he making more friends, etc now?

Thanks for checking in! We've missed you! TURN ON YOUR MESSENGER MORE OFTEN LOL!!

Keggy
04-14-2008, 06:04 PM
hey bek... got something for you too look at... will pm you

matika
04-14-2008, 07:38 PM
JW, my brother is also taking 3D modeling, he will be done December, I think it is a good thing for him. He plans on transfering to California and work for Disney, he been with them for a few years, and he has been offered a position once he gets the class done, not sure what it will all ammount to, but I think it's great.

I do once in a while turn in messenger, but don't think of it often lol.

Well I am off to get Joshua from the bus stop,, take care :)

beky