Sad News

[Meikster]

Tonight my Great-Aunt died of a heart attack, she was 90. I was very close to her. For the past two or so years she had being going phases where she was ill and phases where she was ok. A few months ago she was put into a care home and she stayed there until she sadly passed away. I'm still in shock, can any of you give me some advice?

[Sean]

Tomorrow will be the 20th death anniversary of my sister Jennifer, who died when she was 10 years-old. I had a 1 year-old cousin who died 2 years later.
One of my cousins died at the age of 26, when he took his ex-girlfriend, who just dumped him...killed her, and himself with a rifle...in the 1970s. These people lived short, very short lives.

I had a grandmother, she died of dementia, in 2002. She lived to the ripe old age of 96.. I had a great-aunt, my grandmother's sister, died in 2006, at the VERY ripe ol age of 103.

In life, some people die suddenly, without warning....and some people live long happy lives. Think about how long she lived. 90 years is a long time...considering not everybody lives that long. She lived a long life, she was loved by you very much, you gave her all the love you had. Think about those things. The good memories you had, the teachings and the lessons, and the things she taught you.


The pain you have in you right now, at this moment, in your heart, seems unrepairable. But believe me, I've been through the same thing with Jennifer's (my sister's) death...it will get better as time moves on. Focus on the good things she gave you, focus on the things she taught you...and when you say goodbye to her, at the funeral, let your heart say thank you, to her, for everything she gave you.

Then after that, you will heal...little by little. But it takes time.

This I know.

[babyboomer]

Well said, Sean. Well said:)