Erin - So sorry to hear about your father...

[ErinENj]

Erin - I just wanted to say how sorry I am about your father's passing. I wanted to start this thread so that you'll be able to quickly check in and see that we're all thinking of you during this most difficult time.

I hope that the circus freaks have not turned into vultures and stopped circling and maybe even turned into human beings, at least for a little while.

I don't know how hard this is for you, as I have only lost my grandfathers, but while one was sudden, which was hard, the other was a long, horrible road of suffering to where by the time he passed, we were almost glad he was finally released from that. How long had he been in hospice (I perfectly understand if it is too hard to answer questions right now. Feel free to ignore it...)

I know you said in the check-in thread that you are concerned about not being on here enough, but honestly, quantity doesn't matter. Come on when you can. The people you find here will be the best listeners, best counselors, best people that understand. Everyone will be here, tomorrow or two weeks from now. Please, don't worry about not posting. Just a line here and there so we know you're okay is perfect if that's what you can do.

My deepest and most sincere condolences to you and your family right now. I can't imagine what you're going through right now, but I'm sending you all the warm thoughts and support I have. I'm so sorry.

[Kandra]

Erin,

I'm very sorry to also read about your father's passing :( I hope that the migraines do not increase and that the trigeminal neuralgia keeps fairly calm through this time for you.

We're all here for you!

[Mark N]

Erin, I want to offer you my condolences. I know this can be a tough time as it isn't easy to say good by to our loved ones even if we know it is coming. I hope you find some comfort from your family and friends as you struggle to deal with your loss. I sent you a PM that I hope you have received.

[cindybear]

Erin,
So sorry about your father, But it sounds like he is in a better place now...WE had Hospice for my MIL, and they were great, By the time she left us...She had lost 125 pounds and was bones and was in a coma...And it was the saddest thing to watch over a period of 6 months...And when the day finnally did come, I did thank god for finnally taking her so she did not suffer no more...She had breast cancer that spread into her lungs, liver, brain...She was having seizures that was hard to control...Even though, It is still hard to loose a loved one...I know how hard the next 6 months will be for you and your family,,,My father in law has been gone for 6 years and I thank of him still every day...He was such a great man and had such a impact on me and my life...HUgs hun, Cindy

[ejskennedy]

Thanks for the love, everyone. My dad died of cancer. It started in his larynx and spread to his lungs, liver, and brain. He slipped into a coma Friday night. Ironically, he had cp for the past 40 years, suffered from ptsd. He was a decorated Vietnam Vet, a Marine. He was loyal to his friends, but had a very hard time loving his family. I am thankful that he is physically and emotionally pain-free. I appreciate the condolences. I feel that I have made my peace. They gave him only a few days to live before Thanksgiving, so we have had time to put things in order.

Thanks for starting this thread, Erin. Very sweet of you. Thanks Kandra, Mark and Cindy for reaching out. I love you all.

Erin

[Gimpy]

Erin -

I am so sorry for your loss, I know how painful it must be. I lost my father suddenly a year and a half ago and it is still hard, I miss him terribly.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers over the next few days.

Hugs, Linda

[Nana4&cntn]

Erin,

I am so sorry yo hear of your Fathers death. It is always difficult to lose someone close to you. I now he had been suffering from pain for many years. I really don't like the saying of being in a better place. However, it seems it would apply in your fathers case. I truly believe God has a plan, and your father is no longer in pain and is in the company of people he loves. I hope this helps you, and you can come to peace with his death.

Take care and know I am thinking of you and keeping you in my thoughts.
Kathy

[ErinENj]

Erin -

I'm so sorry that he had to suffer for so long, but I am thankful you were given the chance to say goodbye and make some sort of peace with it.
I'm sending all of the strength I have right now to you during this impossibly difficult time. And I'm packaging it with a great big cyber [[HUG]].

[Mark N]

Erin, As a former Marine I salute your father even though I know he struggled with being a good father due to his Vietnam experience. Marines have to go through things that are hard to imagine. I missed Vietnam duty by just a short time but had many friends in the Corps that were there. Some of the stories are hard to believe and you wonder how they even functioned afterwards so I can understand your father's emotional pain.