Need Your Help!!!

[Jamies Mommy]

I am at my wits end with Jamie. Its getting to the point where I don't like him or want to be around him. Don't get me wrong he is still my son and I love him but hes just not very pleasent to be around. He has been getting more and more agressive lately. He bites, pinches, scratches, hits and digs his finger into me and everyone else basically all day long. This happens when you talk to him, when he has to do something or go somewhere that he doesn't want, when hes over stimulated and sometimes for no apparent reason.
Its getting to the point where I'm seriously considering meds.
I don't know if this agressiveness was brought on by him not being in school for the last 3 months, the move, dad moving back in or its just an age thing.

Any ideas, input, any homeopathic remedies I should try?

[milivica]

God I'm sorry, I have no advice at all. Meds (for behavior) were for me, a cruel decision. The lesser of two evils I guess. I knew his behavior was supposed to be telling me something, just as Jamie's is telling you something....if you had a barage of competent professionals in your life to advise you and help you 24/7, I'd say go that route. But knowing no one has that, what can you do but do your best to make a decision. I'm behind you 110%. I know what ever you decide, you are not making the decision lightly. Believe me, I never ever ever imagined I'd be in the 'parents who give their kid pills' club. I will say though, when the right drug is given and works, it's a better life for the child, parents, the whole family. At least we've had periods like that...although I've never had a period where I was truely comfortable with giving him meds. Not sure why. If he had epilepsy I wouldn't hesitate to give him meds for that. I guess behavior is something we all feel there must be a non-med solution to.

Anyhow, my best wishes and all my support to you making what ever decisions you make. Focus on what you know is best for your children, and that's all you can do.

((((Mili))))

[sadge]

Thought I would share with you what we are using to help Sean at the moment.

We cannot use drugs and he reacts to so many that it is just not worth it, we still or were still having big meltdowns until couple of months ago when we were introduced to a Japanse lady who did alternative therapy. Sean has this woman each week come to our house and do many exercises, he has done tai chi with her also, she pulls and stretches him, even stand on him, in a way I have seen Japenese do this not like we would stand on them. There is a list of exercise's that he has to do each day, which I know he does about 3am each day ( the time is odd I know but Seans day starts at 12 noon and end when he decides to go to bed about 5am, so you can see where is fits the time in for this and remember he is now 18 years old) The meltdowns trailed off soon after the treatment started, and for a couple of months have not been there at all, and he has been much calmer and able to handle stress easier, the lady however has gone hom for 4 weeks, are are 3 weeks into that and the meltdowns are slowly showing their ugle head again, I cannot wait for her to arrive here again this coming Monday and give him his treatment. I does not come cheap but he is paying our of his benefits and its money well spent. We are keeping a diary to see if this is really what is doing him good, but I am 100% certain it is.

How old is Jamie now, as like you say it could be age also, I can remember when Sean started his major meltdowns we had a few bad years, and would not want to go back there again, I recall feeling like you do, but would always do what we could as he was our son. Thing are so much better now, but that is due to him being older also, and not pressure on him with education etc.,

I do hope some of this will help you.

(((hugs))) Susan

[tearducteyes]

the belt.....

[tgrimes]

First of all, that is a lot going on in your life, three major things on the stress scale.
Second, is there any way you can monitor how well he does when he doesn't have to comply with anything, like on a weekend or something. Then if he does pretty well, you know it's the stress of demands being made on him. Wish I could help you there, but my thing is to make less demands, and some tend to disagree with this.
Vitamin B6 - having some sucess with this, start with one pill and increase to two a day, my son's behavior and thinking a lot better, but I don't know if it's just a cycle or actually working.
Meds - I have only tried antidepressants, which helped some problems but caused new ones, but with the compliance thing I have to say I am impressed with Klonopin, his psychiatrist prescribed. You can use it as needed, and it works so well on him when he gets in a mood I can't help him with, or keeps obsessing. It helps with compliance if needed, but I wouldn't think it is something you would want to use everyday.
Anyway, try the B6, you can start it as soon as you get to the grocery. It takes about four days to start working.

[Jamies Mommy]

Thanks I'll try the B 12. Basically its whenb he has to comply at all or when your interuppting his video watching. Hes basically had no structure the last 12 weeks or so since not being in school.

[Keggy]

Dani, so sorry you are going through this. My first thoughts are that he is dealing with so many things and he has no way of verbalizing his thoughts. You got to imagine ... even for a child who can verbalize it is a lot to handle. I would think the best thing for him is working with a good play therapist. They can uncover and work on issues (even subconsciously). Perhaps the school can help you do that. I would look for someone who is well versed in sand tray, not that he is neccessarily ready for that now..l but for when he is.


I am almost afraid to ask what this means :( the belt.....

[tearducteyes]

Oh yeah a person with autism/aspergers cant control their emtotions/insides everything is going in.


So try running tap water and watch him, maybe somehow u can get him to think about tap water when he is alone, at school, and doesnt know what to do with himself.

The tap running , will have his body go down and then when it goes off it will come off but only for him to use his head.

Even opening and closing doors, microwaves very hard because a person with aspergers likes tightness in their body because then nothing is coming in.



Think about it
Maybe this will work.

[Jamies Mommy]

Jamie, likes to have all doors shut lately, if hes upset he opens ans shuts them repeatedly.
He likes to have running water over his feet. Think I'm going to buy him a footbath for Christmas

I just bought some B12 and Fish Oil and am going to try those.

[tgrimes]

Hoping B12 works too, the book I was reading from said B6.
I also saw some articles on internet, I'll try to post it for you later.