people look the other way

[Kashis]

Why is this well alot of them hate us telling them to get out and lots give up on us helping we don't take action we leave it to the one that is a victum who is to scarred there has to be something we can do besides listen and shelters there has to be a way to speak up and speak out stop the violence show others there not alone

I don't know something like we take in the victum and file our own restraining order to keep the abuser away from us which in turn keeps them away from the victum there has to be something and I am determined to figure this out

I am determined to stop the violence lets start a list of some sort of how we can do this ideas something it must be put to a stop this just means so much to me

talk person into getting abuser into treatment before they go back anger mangagment etc as most are afraid and drop charges

listen but help don't turn the other way as victum wants to just talk not take action there reaching out for help and need it we have to stay strong

I don't know please take the time add to the list of things that we could do lets put our heads together and start stopping the violence stop the cycle
this has really got to me lately as you see due to the fact of my brain injury bugging me and all those still in denial

I sent out a email with the ribbion to all friends that says just whats on the ribbon we must start spreading the word or those still in denial will continue to live in an abusive situation I want survivors not any more victums alot of us suffer enough to feel the same I know we do I just do

you must click on my link to get the icon and you can see it in my stop the violence post too thanks to tic chick who has done an awesome job of getting this up for us I made this ribbon it is suppose to be blue and silver but blue and white was as close as I could get I want to make a difference that is my goal and I won't stop till I do

[cheyriver]

Hi Kashis,

I agree more needs to be done about DV. The public needs to be more aware of this devastating problem.

I've had plenty look the other way. People who I thought I could count on turned a blind eye. I felt 'marked' because of what I went through by some people.

One person said to me I feel sorry for animals that are abused because they can't defend themselves. I don't feel sorry for human to human violence. People can protect themselves.

I'm an animal lover and hate animal cruelty. Some people don't understand DV but I would like to see some of the judgemental and rude ones put in our shoes and see if they will repeat the above statement.

I'm a forgiving person. Some people really do not understand unless they are in our shoes. The odd person has changed their mind after explaining or reading material. Then there are those who are just crude, rude and very judgemental. I don't have the time for those types of people.

I think it is really great you are reaching out and spreading the word.

The idea of your ribbon is wonderful. :)

[Kashis]

you know what is sad I posted this on my myspace page as a bulliten and only 2 people out of 86 reposted the ribbion which I see just how many turn away and its awful most would rather act like it doesn't exist or it doesn't matter and it upsets me so as this is for real but I will not stop until the word is spread no matter how I have to do it thinking of building a page just on domestic violence with facts statistics and homicide info without spreading the word ain't no one going to care its something that has to be stopped and I feel the only way to stop it is try to make a difference Hugs