Take care all of you

[dyslimbic]

Apparently a bad mannered,brain dead ***** who decided to attack me with her very first post here thinks my efforts to help on BT are vain and worthless.
I am not up to coping with such nastiness especially as i gave a reasonable and polite response to her first post.

I am retreating into lurk mode and will only be making very infrequent visits from now on.

[moose53]

((((((Tim)))))),

Oh, poohbah!!

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Tim, 'member when I said that "The Universe" would keep putting the same sitch in front of you 'cause you were having trouble with that sitch :confused:

Go back and read that conversation again between you and Liz. (By the way, I thought that you made a perfectly valid point in your original post -- that even if illnesses only have slight similarities they should perhaps be researched to see exactly how they are the same because that 'sameness' might help in the long-term in the more complicated or the more serious 'condition'.

Back on track for the moose: Read the thread again.

She reacted too strongly to what you said. Obviously, you struck a nerve, even though you weren't aiming at one.

She also reacted very strongly to the fact that you didn't like being criticized.

Both of you have sensitive areas that are sparking at each other -- just like static electricity.

To me, that means that you both could probably help each other. But, you both have to get past the sensitivity.

These things will keep coming back until you can SEE IT and DEAL WITH IT without wanting to back away.

I'm not trying to play amateur psychologist here. I just believe VERY STRONGLY that The Universe tries to put us into positions or situations or events where we will either learn or teach. To my way of thinking (AKA Moose-101) strong negative reactions indicate a need to "learn". A strong positive reaction would have indicated a need to transfer knowledge -- to teach.

I don't want you going anywhere, sugar. I don't want you lurking or backing off from confrontation (even though I have a gold star in that myself :o ). I want you to KNOW and to BELIEVE that you can use your words and your intelligence to re-frame these situations so that they become a growth-step for you instead of another bop on the head.

I love you, Tim. I value what you give to all of us. Please-please, take another look. BIG HUGS.

Barb

[CanRelate]

Tim:

I would send this as a PM, but I have turned mine off as I am taking a bit of a break to focus attention off-line on several things. Clearly, I am lurking though:rolleyes:

I respect your need to take a sabbatical for whatever reason. I will miss the thought provoking information you post and the personal stories you sometimes share...

Remember that one poster does not speak for all......... 'nuff said, before a mod has to edit my post here!!

Remember those of us who have vocally (publicly and privately) expressed appreciation for the many type of contribution/support/compassion you bring to BT. And know there are many lurkers (members and guests) who read and find puzzle pieces or support in what you share....

While I would not presume to speak for others, I suspect there are many who are reading this and nodding their heads in agreement...or even saying "amen" to their computer screens.

With very warm regards and appreciation,
CanRelate


Apparently ...(edited for brevity..) decided to attack me with her very first post here thinks my efforts to help on BT are vain and worthless.

I am not up to coping with such nastiness especially as i gave a reasonable and polite response to her first post.

I am retreating into lurk mode and will only be making very infrequent visits from now on.

[CanRelate]

Amen to that, Barb!!

And I am taking the reminder of the wisdom of repeated situations needing attending....I am part of the "know-better-but-need-to-keep-working-at-doing-those-hard-for-me-things-better".

Warm regards,
CanRelate

[Ponygirl]

Do you know about the "ignore" feature at BrainTalk?
Why don't you put the person on, "ignore"??

Phyllis

[GlimmeringGirl]

it's so hard to communicate well, consistently, when one has Bipolar... I know I am often guilty of sending zingers that I regret later. :eek: But at the time, they seem perfectly reasonable and justified and well-composed. My tip is: if I want to email or post something right away... I almost always shouldn't! so I count to 10 or have a friend read it.( Embarassing but true)
i hope everyone on this board is forgiving of bad blurts and crabbiness. if not, i'll be doomed next time the Manic Express zooms through my brain! :(

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it's so hard to communicate well, consistently, when one has Bipolar... I know I am often guilty of sending zingers that I regret later. :eek: But at the time, they seem perfectly reasonable and justified and well-composed. [...] i hope everyone on this board is forgiving of bad blurts and crabbiness. if not, i'll be doomed next time the Manic Express zooms through my brain! :(Yes, indeed, mutual tolerance is more necessary but more difficult because of our greater emotional sensibility.

Tim : http://bestsmileys.com/hugging/3.gif

I like you being here. I like you, with all your peculiarities. And, you are a remarkable person, spontaneous and human... gifts of clarity in the muck of our illnesses, even tho i see you get dragged through a lot of the muck of it. It is good to share that too. And one has to be brave, that you are. We can help each other.

I too have felt the need to retreat at times, for different reasons, and have done so, so i CanRelate ;) to that. But posting or not i shall be thinking of you, wishing you wellness and tranquility. When posting i think Phyllis is on the spot - use ignore. some ppl just rub each other the wrong way, and non interaction is better. even if you turn off the ignore and read the post, having it on for a while might help you "prepare" for a post that might ... feel like a punch in the gut... or...

Barb's has good nuggets as usual. but i believe to learn or to teach one must be prepared. Otherwise it can actually shake your roots which isn't useful for those of us whose roots are prone to shake rattle and roll of their own accord! Ok, so there is a point at which one must stop, turn, and face one's fears. (i am living that right now). But i personally believe there is a time... just how we teach children gradually, and gently, so we must continue to learn... gently, and on our own time.

Whatever you decide to do regarding the impact this person is having on you, retreat, ignore, somehow desensitize, refocus... you do what you feel is best for you, and that you are able do comfortably for now. your recent posts have sounded like you have had troubled times of late, so if that is ongoing, the less negative stimulation, the better off you are.

i don't know, know that a bunch of people appreciate you here, for all that has been expressed aaaaaaaaanddd, for Personality, be it NOS or whatever!

i don't know if it can help, to refocus, when you read something that feels or objectively reads as a personal attack - think about how you are appreciated... by us. also consider that the other person may not be on top of their own wits at the time.

Believe in magic
and
as you can, keep posting

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[houghchrst]

Tim I so appreciate all of your posts. They are so informative and often give me hope that there is the possibility of real help. If not for me then for future generations. Please don't let others affect your posting here. If you post less often because you need to then let it be because YOU need to not because of someone else. Then they win and we can't have that.