just one question

[911]

Does the pain ever go away ???? will life ever return to "normal " for victoms of abuse ??? i know 2 questions but important ones and i woulod like the take from people who have gone thru it . my finacee is going thru it from past abuse and i WILL stand by her thru anything she needs to go thru , i would just like to know others exsperiance with what it takes to get thru it , thanks ,,,,,,,,,,,, dave ,,,,,,,,,,, aka ,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 911

[blossom4th]

Dave,
It's kind of like an accident one has had in the past....the worst of the pain is over and the memories do start to fade....but they're still there! Kind of in the back of your mind.After time goes on you're able to go about your normal routine without thinking much about that accident.But say there's a detour and you have to go down "that" street one day. Or you see a car that looks exactly like the one that hit yours.Or you're nearly in another accident! Suddenly it's as if your brain has refreshed your memory of the first accident.Our minds can play some of the awfullest tricks on us! When it comes to domestic abuse,it makes a person 'super nervous' whenever they hear loud talking,see wild gesturing.We can just see a person that looks similar to our abuser and the abuse will play over and over like a videotape in our mind.There's no remote control until we've gotten the help we need!

[Kashis]

abuse never goes away its always deep within and blossom is right on the nose with this one we are all normal just pain is deep within us that we deicded it was time to move on from and start living life it took us all along time I still have fears we all do and always will its our nature once your hurt its hard to heal inside but in do time we do hang in there dave were always here and will guide you as best we can were an awesome bunch here and I Thank GOD for this alot of praying is what got me this far

[911]

thanks for the responce to my inquiry i have been wondering if this psuychological pain ever really does go away , aparently not , i to have some psych issues but nothing like what sandi has been thru but i can assure you this as i have with her parents i will remAINE STRON , VERY STRONG FOR HER , and yeh i will sometimes come back here looking for ansers , most of the time i post on the cronic pain site as i have a rare form of arthritis that not much \can be done for cept to feed me pills for the pain and after 9 or more years of that thats not working so well either , thank you all so much for being here for both of us , i can be reached through p/m or i think my e-mail is also available through this site but feel free to write if you wish , also everyone have a very merry x-mas,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, dave ,,,,,,,,,,,aka,,,,,,,,,, 911

[Kashis]

hang in there dave and pray alot thats the best I can tell you thats what got us all this far we don't know why we were punished and there will never be a right answer only GOD knows why maybe so we could help others none of use know all we know is were here and were alive for a reason

[blossom4th]

Actually,the abuse wasn't a punishment from God.....but a part of the violent and evil that lurks in this world.But Krissi does make a point that we can learn from our experiences and help others! :)