Wow

[Fayelle]

Well my dad got here on Saturday.....he looks so old....

Tonight he had a really bad night and is having some pretty significant symptoms.....The nurse came out at midnight to check on him because he ended up really upset and afraid...

She went on to tell us that she thinks he is declining and his body is starting the process....He has not been very hungry or thirsty...He has been asleep a whole lot.....or out of it altogether....he has moment to moment situations, he feels fine one moment and terrible the next....So well it turns out we are in the home stretch....now its about making him comfortable until the end....

I guess its really hard since he is really so young......54 is really too young to die like this.....But I suppose it is what it is.....

Fay

[trekker]

(((((((((Fay)))))))) and some ******'s too

I will pray for you and your family.

How are you feeling? How is the rest of your family taking it?

[joy]

Hi Fay. I had not realized your dad is so young. I say that because I am older. My daddy was 55 when he passed away many years ago because of cancer. His wish was to stabilize enough so he could move back closer to our home and stay in a nursing home. He never made it. Useless information for you but I wanted you to know what you are doing not only helps your dad but I believe will help you after he is gone. I was the one both of my parents relied one at the end of their life and I often have feelings that I did not do enough. Continue letting us know how you are doing during this difficult time.

[Fayelle]

Thank you so much....

My oldest daughter is having trouble with things....I am going to send her to my friends house today, she is close to her and will probably be able to talk to her about some things.....

Yesterday I had to sign his DNR as he has been incapable of making that decision and it could be any time now.......

We are now to 24 hour nursing care......There was a request made for one of the best nurses to deal with the end of life hours...She really was great with him....At the moment it is just about keeping him comfortable and out of pain...He is unable to communicate clearly, his eyes are seldom open....he is not moving any air through his lungs at all...he is on a foley catheter because his stomach is significantly distended and pushing on his bladder and lungs.....

The hospice has been a godsend and I am so happy that they are here and available.....My husband has been in touch with the mortuary and has that all taken care of......He is being very supportive.....

My dad had one good day while he was here where he went for a few walks and enjoyed being outside....That night he started to decline and when I woke up yesterday he was pretty much unable to do much of anything....

It was tough signing his DNR....I felt like I was taking his life away from him.....But he had told us in the past that he was wanting it that way....

Well I better get back....

Thanks again!

Fay

[Buttons2]

Fay, I also had no idea your father was so young (I'm 57),guess it's because of the maturity YOU show.

You're doing everything possible.....BIG HUG & keep us posted.

Take care,Buttons

Don't neglect your BS testing.....now that I know you're young enough to be my daughter I can nag! Try to keep some protein handy at all times,this stress can set you back more than you realize.

Glad you have such good support & the daughter being elsewhere sounds like the best idea for now.

[Tbackpain1]

Fayelle,

As a former hospice caregiver, and having provided hospice to my grandfather and father in law, I understand what you're dealing with. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Theresa

[Abby]

I am very sorry Fay. ((((((Fay))))))

[potatobug]

Fay-

I am so sorry, I wish you strength to carry you through.

Patty

[Fayelle]

Thank you again all....

Things have been sort of rough with hubby out of town and everything being so fresh.....

Sort of at my wits end but still plugging along.....

Thanks for all of the support, its so odd to think I was prepared to be a caretaker and ended up only having him here for a week.....

But I honestly didn't think this would be so hard right now either.....

Its a rollercoaster ride....

Fay

[Boopers]

Fay, sending you gentle hugs and pray that you will have the strength to carry on.
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