Away for a while

[ChrisC]

I will be staying away from posting on this board for a while. I'm so very disappointed with the events/postings/criticisms over the past few weeks.

Most members would agree that we're here to guide and encourage. What I have seen recently is alot of criticism, lambasting others, anger, accusations - everything but encouragement. How can you encourage anyone when you're busy trying to defend what you've said - maybe in the heat of the moment, or the middle of a really bad day, or just because it's a really sensitive subject to you?

We've all been touched by aneurysms in one way or another, and we all have one or more issues that will ignite a firestorm of emotions. I find it rather ironic that we've managed to forgive ourselves the misgivings that this medical problem hands us - but we can't do it with others. There is a level of understanding that we all should have with each other. Not everyone will get along famously. Some will, as I posted the other day, agree to disagree. NO ONE has the right to get mean about it. If you can't post something constructive, nice or encouraging - please don't post.

Hopefully, the board will come back to life. And - in the end - life IS what we're talking about here.

[pamuk]

I am joining Chris on this one too, and I am very upset that I have to do this.
When I joined this board back in 2004, I was in shock from a diagnosis of 7 annies. My frame of mind back then was a mixture of terror and great sadness, the people on this board, made me see how lucky I was to actually have the benefit of finding out about these annies and taught me how knowledge is power. They helped me through my treatment decisions and my surgeries, whenever I have felt down they have picked me up and got me where I am today. If I ever felt noone understood I could guarantee if had a look at some of the messages on this forum I would feel better and if I posted someone was always there to help me through things. I like to think that I have helped others too and have visited this board every day since I joined with the exception of when I have been in hospital However, during the last few weeks there has been times when I have actually felt disturbed and depressed by what I have been reading, so I stayed away for a while, but I missed my good friends and I missed helping people, so I came back on, and found not only had it not got any better but people were calling each other and criticising each other. So now I feel the need to stay away again, I will be back when I see all this has stopped.

Pam from England

[dawnmn]

Sorry you both feel this way. You both have been there for the newbies that come on. I alway enjoy your postings. Please at least read the postings and jump in when they need you and your experience. I'm a quite reader only posting when I have some experience to share. Chris you have given out information that has been helpful to people even to us oldies. Who's going to help with the medical jargon?
Dawn

[tink]

As I posted under Mimi's post, I too am joining Mimi, Chris and Pam and leaving the board--for real this time. I think it's a disgrace how viscious things have become and the doctor told me to eliminate stress from my life and I am going to start here. I hope maybe the house will be cleaned and the forum will again return to the supportive, friendly place it once used to be. Take care everybody.

Love,
Lori

[kc_dawn]

I understand and agree with you. I too, hope the board will return to a positive, nice place to get support. You will all be missed and I hope you return soon. God Bless You and Take Care. Keep In Touch:)

[Lyn]

Chris
I will miss your lovely way of helping people, and the wealth of compassion and friendship you bring to the board. It seems you are not alone with your decision, and as a matter of principle I think I will be away from posting for a while too. Please feel free to email me or PM me anytime - I will still check in and read to see if anything is changing.

Hugs

Lyn

[Greenie]

Chris, Tink, and others, dont leave. Chris, you helped me a lot when I first came on the board with my Mother's problems. You helped me a lot and made me feel welcome. Tink, you are such a kind heart. This place needs that. You all, and many others, understood what I was going through and offered good, solid advice.

Brenda

[rmbing64]

I wish you all would stay. I have always enjoyed reading your posts and you have all been very helpful to me. I just skip things that I find negative or depressing and do not respond to negative postings. I tell my husband that I am a glass half-full kind of gal and I like to believe that people are basically good at heart. Please reconsider leaving, it won't be the same here without you all. Rose

[Horsegirl]

I really wish you would all stay too! After I had my aneurysm, I was scared and felt very alone, I looked fine on the outside and my friends and family couldn't understand what I was going through. I came here with my questions and the support and love I got from you all was what helped me get through the tough time of healing and being just plain scared of what happened to me. This is what the board is for. Sharing knowledge (not giving doctor advice or passing judgement) and for helping people travel down the road on the same journey. Those of you that replied to me were WONDERFUL and this spirit has to come back here, for the sake of those that are were I was not so long ago. I HATE the negative, it does nothing but suck precious energy away. Thanks again to all of you with big hearts, you mean the world to me and you kept me going when the rain was falling :)

[Craiger]

Ok guys -You have been away a day and that's too long! I miss all of your posts and insight and remember there are many "rookies" that need some support by the vets. I'm going to be bold and call myself a vet since I have been posted lots over they years since my rupture in Oct 2004 but unfortunately have forgot password at least 3 times so my post #s keep getting reset. Not trying to fool anyone - I think I have always been either a obvious form of Craig or Reg. Anyhow, if you think you can come back and it's good for you guys please feel welcome.

Having said that I did find 1 point in my recovery that required me to forget about my annie problems for a bit and never posted here for probably 6-8 months or so. I ocassioanlly popped in to read but mostly stayed away and it was a requirement for my specific road to health which is now changing a bit.

Consider this an offer of a group hug and start fresh. Put behind you some of the posts that were upsetting. Each and everyone of us makes mistakes or says something that may not be the usual way of thinking on the forum and it will continue to go on. I choose to ignore them since being diplomatic is not a strong point for me. The vets have brains full of good information and suggestions that the rookies require. If your road to recovery involves staying away for more I completely understand but hope to see you all posting again soon.

Sorry to ramble - Craig/Craiger/Craigest/Reg and probably others I can't remember.........


Craig

[tg_is_me]

Hi guys
I too am disappointed that the vets are leaving the board. I truly valued the support I was given in the beginning. I feel sorry that the newbies are missing out on your wisdom and guidance. I think everyone should just take a big breath, count to 10 and realise that there are more important things in this world than bickering. Come back please. ((Hugs to all))
Love Tina