MATIKAaaaaaaaaa?

[milivica]

Hey Penelope,

Give us a little post today. Even if you only say "not today, tomorrow" just so we can 'see' you today.

Ciao!
Mili

[matika]

Well I did slept ok,, did woked up way to early but stayed in bed anyways, I should of had just gotten up because staying in bed longer then I am comfortable, gets my back hurting.

I am feeling a bit better today, I am just trying not to think about it... the headache did not help but I hope tomorrow will be ok.

I talked to a friend in Sl and all I hear is get meds for your daughter, and I am affraid to put her in meds, I don't know, maybe it can be a way to control her outrage, but then what else would it do to her and how would it slow her down,, I guess I just do not know enough about meds to make a decition, so for now I am putting it out of my mind,, if this keeps progressing to worse, I will have to talk to someone about this.

Anywho,, I am hanging there...
That picture attached is my avatar skydiving in Agape,, at least here if I go SPLAT!! I can get up and go on walking lol

[milivica]

Glad you got some sleep.

About meds...if a person really needs them, they can save your life like mine did for me. Though I don't agree with kids taking meds for behavior, my kid does cause I don't know what else to do. He takes Strattera for ADHD - not sure weather to consider that meds for behavior or brain chemistry. When he doesn't, he gets very upset, says he can't lower his engine, it's like he's an electric wire that is cut, and bouncing on the street wildly. On Strattera, he has more choice about what he can and can't do. He can enjoy a movie, he can enjoy his animals, he can enjoy his books...there is nothing he can enjoy more off of the strattera, so, I really don't feel comfortable taking him off. Though I'd love to, I just don't like kids taking drugs....though, if he had epilepsy I'm sure I wouldn't question it. Ya know?

If a person does NOT really need them and everyone wants your kid on them to make THEIR live easier (such as school), no way. There is no 'autism' medication. There are meds that help control rage and other behaviors, but, behavior is not meant to be controlled with meds - behavior is communication.

No need to decide right now anyhow, just some opinions for ya.

For now though, just think about the objects or actions that soothe her, the things that help her feel calm, make sure she can access to ways of making herself calm (self regulate) throughout the day. I believe that is what all our kids would choose, given the opportunity. Does she like to twirl, that can be self regulating for some kids. Spin things? Chew on things? Vincent used to have a wash cloth to chew on allllllll day long. Now, he just uses it at night, or when he's really tired.

Now, what about the objects of actions that sooth you :D . Don't forget yourself! ;) Could be scrap booking, listening to a song over and over, and bubble bath...I don't mean escaping like getting drunk, I mean soothing.

Same for your son, what actions or objects helps him self regulate?

Don't worry about your dh, he's a man, I already know what actions help him :rolleyes:

[matika]

I do not know about my son, I guess the computer seems to relax him, but all it really does it bottle up his energy for later then he is spinning and bouncing out of control,, not agressive,, but, my son DOES bounce off the walls, he closes his room so we won't notice,, yeah right, sounds like a stanpeed going on in there, and it's just him, bounce, bounce bounce :(

The sades part is to see the look on his face at times, he is so stressed, so at the edge, but he stays in control fairly well, but he gets to the point of almost tears to his eyes,, he looks like a RL Precious moment, with the droopy big eyes, so cute, bless his heart, my heart really hurts to see him so distressed, and he CAN'T help it, he just can't, and I no longer know how to help him, maybe because I have tried it all,, about all I can do is call him over and give him a big hug, and let him lean on me and he does, he leans and lets go, melts and gets all cudly like a puppy.

He is like big time ADHHHHHHHD, hipper hipper, and keeps him from paying attention at school.

I asked him why he can't sit still at class often, and he told me yesterday is because he gets bored, I said if you listen to what Mr. K has to say you would not be so bored,,, well maybe he is getting bored, it's all just words to him, am honestly considering taking him out and homeschooling him and just letting Rachel in school, because she has good support, and her aid loves her, even if she goes off on her, they really like each other quite well, I hope she won't quit, I hope Rachel will improve, I just can't homeschool her.

I think might be time to make an appointment with the developmental ped. means 2 hours drive, but oh well.

[milivica]

then he is spinning and bouncing out of control,, not agressive,, but, my son DOES bounce off the walls,

IF you think it's a good idea, next time he does that, try and have him lay down and put a cushion or pillow on his back, and put your weight on his chest (or back). Have him direct you...."more, more, more, more.....ok get off me!" Supposedly, deep pressure like that helps the body release oxytocin, the 'hug' hormone or something it's called - your body releases it when you nurse.

If he let's go and melts with hugs, are you hugging him strong, medium, soft...what ever you're doing, keep doing it. Cool!

I stink at sensory stuff, but Vince is so awesome, if I remember to say, "Vince, what can I do to help you lower your engine" he KNOWS! Even when he is super hyper and crashing into the walls in the hall back and forth, sometimes he asks me to tickle the back of his neck with my fingernails - dunno what that does, but it soooooths him, calms him.

His OT's at school gave me many ideas, can you ask the OT's what they do to help her calm down, as well as him? Maybe that'll help some.