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XTinaMarie474
09-16-2007, 08:16 PM
Hi Everyone,

I just found this forum and decided to tell my story.

Four years ago I became severely depressed (won't go into details). I checked myself into the psych unit at the local hospital and was there for a week. While I was there I was much better, but once I got back home to "REAL LIFE" all the stress hit me again and I went downhill again.

I was seeing a psychiatrist and a therapist, was taking my medications religiously, but nothing was helping. I was a mess. Crying all the time, shaking, anxious, sad, felt horrible, got about 4 hours of sleep a night, could barely eat - maybe once every 4 or 5 days (I lost 7 lbs ina week and I was only 120lbs to start with), was totally stressed out.

I told my therapist I was suicidal. She said "Suicide isn't the answer" and had me sign one of those agreements. That's it.

One day at work I began feeling light-headed and dizzy - like I was going to pass out, so my employer called an ambulance to take me to the ER. I had them take me to the hospital where I had spent a week in the psych ward. They said I felt bad from the lithium I was on. (I think it was from the combination of stress, not sleeping and not eating) The psychiatrist came in and I told him that I was not getting better, was much worse than when I was admitted to the hospital, that I couldn't go on like this. He told me to follow up with my psychiatrist the next day about my lithium level and sent me home.

The next night I overdosed on Xanax, Vicodin, Klonopin, and Flexeril. I was found by a neighbor 14 hours later and rushed to the ER. Once I woke - 36 hours after the overdose - they realized that I couldn't move anything except my left arm. They did an MRI and found that I had a spinal cord injury. I was tranferred to another hospital where they decided that the spinal cord injury was most likely caused by a severe drop in my blood pressure - most likely my blood pressure was down to 30 over palpable. I had an ischemic, or watershed, stroke in my spinal cord. Meaning that not enough blood got to that part of my spinal cord so it died.

I was paralyzed from my shoulders down, except for a little movement in my left arm. I am a quadriplegic. I had been so depressed that I tried to take my own life only to wake up and find that not only was I still alive, but now my life was going to be much worse!!!

Thankfully I have recovered enough to walk with a cane, but still have many problems associated with spinal cord injuries. I continued taking medications, seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist for a few years after and now no longer feel I need it. I am still sad about my problems but no longer depressed like I was.

The thing that really upsets me is that I was doing all the things I was supposed to do. I was taking my medications, seeing a therapist once, if not twice, a week, seeing a psychiatrist. I told 2 different psychiatrists that I was suicidal and they did NOTHING!!!!! Where else do you turn? What do you do? Aren't the doctors there for a reason? Isn't it their job to help you? What the heck are they getting paid for, then? When you are at the end of your rope and are turned away by the doctors that are supposed to help you, what are you supposed to think? They knew that there is a high chance of someone attempting suicide in the first 6 weeks after starting psychiatric medications, yet they did not take me seriously!

I have a lawsuit against the doctor and the hospital where I had the ER visit the day before, but the doctor did not note what I had said to him in the notes, so according to the "Standard of Care" he was not under obligation to do anything!!! He will not settle the case because he does not want to be reported for malpractice. So I will be going ahead with a trial, although my chances aren't good for getting any kind of compensation. Meanwhile, my medical costs just go higher and higher - $400,000 just in the first 4 years!

And for those of you who think overdosing is "safe", like I did, think again. You don't want to wake up from a suicide attempt to be paralyzed, do you?

Good luck, everyone. I hope things get better for all of you!

Tina
MI

moose53
09-16-2007, 09:24 PM
((((((Tina)))))) <<--those are hugs

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I'm so sorry :( It does sometimes seem like you do everything 'right' and you get screwed. No explanation for "WHY".

I, too, attempted suicide -- 7 times. Some times, I was found. Other times, I voluntarily went to the doctor and told him I took pills. The last time -- the last time -- I took pills and gave pills to my son. I didn't want to be found. My husband had seen me earlier in the day and he had a 'bad feeling'. So ... he came home early and found us.

Luckily, in my case, I don't think there was any permanent damage -- other than, I think, the multiple attempts killed the marriage and ruined the kids (especially my son). Big price to pay for feeling lost :(

I know what the absolute, mind-killing hopelessness feels like. I just wish -- like you -- that people understood that that 'instant' of hopelessness never lasts. Something comes along to change it -- you see a kitten and laugh at its antics, a friend calls, you watch a funny cartoon.

There's an oriental saying -- I think it's in the "I Ching" -- you can't step in the same river twice. Even if all the circumstances "feel" exactly the same as the last time that you felt hopeless, there will always be some slight difference in how you feel. Suicide should NEVER be an option.

Tina, I believe that The Universe guides us to where we need to go -- sometimes there's a lesson we need to learn -- that's why we keep running into the same experiences over and over again.

Other times, we're needed to teach -- to pass our knowledge on -- or even to intervene in a situation that we see as troubling.

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I don't believe in God and punishing us for our mistakes. I believe that we need to cooperate with the love and the flow and the humanity of this world or The Universe will step in and announce to us in a VERY BIG VOICE: "That's Not The Way To Do It".

I think maybe your suicide and mine were that very big voice telling us that we had to change our direction.

I'm truly sorry that it's been hard for you. I'm glad BEYOND EVERYTHING that you didn't succeed in killing yourself -- I have a feeling you're needed around here.

I, too, have been to the emergency ward on the verge of suicide and have been blown off. I was changed from branded Prozac to generic Prozac and it had a wicked reaction in me -- my intention was to go to the highest bridge in town and drive or jump off. Thankfully, there was a traffic jam and the traffic flow went to the hospital instead of the bridge.

I'm glad the traffic was flowing the 'wrong way' for you too, Tina. Bless you, dear lady. BIG HUGS.

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Buttons2
09-17-2007, 02:29 PM
Wow! Tina thanks for sharing your story. If it prevents one person from taking pills to end it all......

I understand your anger & bitterness about the doctors,many of us have had negative experiences also. Being in this world is a constant fight for survival I believe.

When my dosage of Zoloft was increased several years ago I became suicidal. There seems to be a great deal of denial that meds which are supposed to help can sometimes harm instead. And what really bugs me is the way these drugs are given to children & teenagers.

Maybe this thread will be a wake up call for someone out there. If you're in that black pit-get help! No matter how rotten your life is....as long as you can breathe there is HOPE.

Oddly enough I fight the depression everyday of my life,and yet I come here to encourage other people to hang on.....maybe that's my purpose right now.

In my own situation I've discovered that anger,bitterness & an overwhelming sense of having a bleak future,play into my depression. When I simply can't see any light at the end,I have to wait for a "mind adjustment". Hoping tomorrow will be better. Something will bring a smile. Someone will reach out & need me.I will recognize I do have value on this planet,I do have a purpose.And it's not up to me to decide when I go.....

Gentle HUG to you,and this post has given me a new perspective on what could happen if I attempt & fail (again). You may have just saved a life already......Buttons

mama sue
09-17-2007, 10:48 PM
I am touched by your post. I too feel like the doctors and so called professionals that are there to help you need to wake up and smell the coffee!!! I've recently lost my husband to suicide and although I know he made his own choices, I still feel he was let down by the "system". Hang in there and know that we are all glad you are here to share your story.

(((HUGS)))

hotandcold
05-03-2008, 07:16 PM
I am touched by your post. I too feel like the doctors and so called professionals that are there to help you need to wake up and smell the coffee!!! I've recently lost my husband to suicide and although I know he made his own choices, I still feel he was let down by the "system". Hang in there and know that we are all glad you are here to share your story.

(((HUGS)))

Sorry to hear about this - not that , that prob means much

The doctors in my experince are there to make money - thats it

Its business and they deal every day in " blood money " with little time or care for sematics beyond what they can do to efficiently follow the script i.e. hospital costs so on..

They have bills to pay and their own lives to care for beyond any one elses first...

In my experinces the care really doesnt come into at all , in fact after 18 yrs and my own numerous problems which were caused by them , I would say they are the most ( un- caring ) people I've ever meet - though they will tell you that it comes with the job i.e. because they might actually get concious about how what their doing - or rather not doing.

The system as you call it is business and politics like so much else now and ultimatley the consumer ( us ) to feel cheated.

Beyond trying to empower yourself and living in the moment as it were , Im not sure you can really expect anything from any one ..other than yourself

Im sure theres good doctors and people here and there that can help but theres also fair share that cant or wont.

Im crippled myself , though my story is far more complicated I struggle to walk now even on crutches amongst other things...

Its been 10 yrs since I made attempt on my life and I suppose in hindsight - aside from my friends - I wish had it worked given whats happened since..

I dont have regrets about what tried but the bad luck factor and ill treatment by doctors that lead to this certainly leave me with more than bitter taste and at times some pretty dark thoughts about where Id like to take them..

I'm not sure suicide is answer but neither is living in pain or just becoming a prisoner to your fears , there has to be balance and no can decide that other than you .


All I can say is to find your bliss , your moment in whatever way you can and make sure its something that comes from you rather than other way round.

Illness makes you appreciate what manys others are too busy or socially conditioned to see.

Dont sell that short , its quality that rare these days and one that keeps the spirit alive.

houghchrst
05-03-2008, 08:06 PM
Tina, welcome, glad you found us. This is not my usual spot, though BrainTalk is but I just wanted to pop in and say hi and I am glad you posted this and good luck.

((((Tina))))

Sparkle
07-10-2008, 01:20 AM
Do u really think the docs had any idea of how u were feeling? Unless they have been there, I don't think they could possibly know. May u realize the importance of your life and find a place of peace where u can live out your days. U R important on this earth. Never forget that. never.
You have worth and there is a reason you r here. Hang in there!!!
HUGS!

brainandspinalcord
09-02-2008, 11:28 AM
Tina I'm so sorry to hear of all you've been through, as well as the others who posted their stories.
A spinal cord injury probably isn't something people think of being associated with attempted suicide. It's good to hear you were able to regain enough function to walk.
I think bottom line you needed someone to really CARE for you, and all your doctors refused to connect and help when you most needed it. The pills were obviously not helping, and you needed someone to listen. I'm so sorry that didn't happen for you, but it is a good thing you are here to tell your story and help someone who may be in your shoes.

seizeacure
09-15-2008, 08:49 PM
I have a really good relationship with my therapist, my SW and my Dr. I am honest with them when I feel sucidial or self injurious there will be one of three responses. Usually they will start by asking me if I need to be hospitalized. They trust me enough to know I'll tell them yes if I'm really dangerous. If I say no they make me sign a contract. It really makes a difference to me because I honor my committments. If they BOTH feel that I'm not in a safe place emotionally (usually from dissociation or nightmares) they will both tell me its time to go in. I trust them as much as they trust me and if they all want me in I do go. Right now as I talk pdoc has told me she wants me in but I've verbally signed a contract. Therapist is going to call at 8 tonight so we wil see what he says. Love you all please try to remember there are a lot of good, caring Drs out there don't give up until you find them

clouds z
09-25-2008, 02:09 PM
i hope you are healed

maybe later ill write more here

joy
09-25-2008, 08:31 PM
I am glad for every one of you who found a good caring person to help you.

When I was an EMT we were told to not ask a person considering sucide to think about their children. They said, trust that the person considering sucide has considered every choice and that is trhe plan they come up with, so protect YOURSELF!

I often thought that myself I had been low and knew that the dawn could bring a different view to things.

All this just lets me know we need to keep sharing things and hang on.

Flaky
10-28-2008, 04:26 AM
Hello TinaMarie
I know just how you feel... I tried to get over with it once, too. And I woke up at the hospital angry that I didn't take enough pills to do the job rite. I didnt get paralysed though
the next week I strted to feel guiltey about it and tried to get better. but stuff just didn't get ny better realy, for a long time
I just still feel blahh... like nothing makes any diffrence. I wish the pills did the job now

good luck to you though

houghchrst
10-28-2008, 05:46 PM
Hey Flaky, you haven't been posting much. What is going on? Maybe posting in the depression forum or Emotional Support might be of some help. They get a bit more traffic.

{{{{{hug}}}}

joy
10-30-2008, 01:39 PM
I would encourage anyone who feels alone or is depressed to post in the Emotional Forum here. There is usually someone around most all the time & I think it's a great bunch of people myself.

So drop on by and let us greet y'll daily or at least a few times a week.

You'd be most welcome.

JAVISI
11-09-2008, 05:53 PM
Tina Marie,
What a compelling story. I never thought about the life afterwards. I took half a bottle of oxycodone. My boyfriend was here, He first took me to my parents and made me tell them what I did, humiliation is what I felt. In the Hospital a policeman came in to talk to me. I told him that I took the pills so I could sleep. I was just tired of being awake. When you sleep you don't have to deal with life, it makes it much easier.

I am so depressed now but I am fighting it this time, I want to live for my kids, grandkids and my boyfriend ect..

It helps me to post to other, think about others problems and not mine. It works for me. It may not be the best thing to do but I am working hard, fighting for my life.

Dream Big, Javisi