How can I help my parents fix their relationship?

[pink]

How can I help my parents with their relationship? I know that things are not ok between them. They are showing some signs of a troubled marriage ('http://www.divorceguide.com/overview/signs-of-a-troubled-marriage.html') according to the online article that i've read. Do you think i can help them fix their relationship? I'm just their daughter. They might be angry with me for intervening their relationship. Please help me. Need some advice. I don't want them to end up in divorce court. :(

[houghchrst]

Honey I am sorry your parents seem to be having a rough time. If they are not getting along or are unhappy then it may be best for them to split. If that is the case then the best thing you can do is to be supportive and love them. They are still your parents and love you no matter what happens between them. You can try sitting them down together and telling them that you are afraid and you want to know if they are having a rough time and if so is counseling a possibility. That could be including you occasionally. Ask them to keep you in the loop. That doesn't mean that you are there for every or need to know about every argument or disagreement but just that you need to know what is going on so you won't be left with your own imagination. If a divorce happens you may find that your parents are happier as individuals and then your world will be open to other experiences and possibilites and people in the future. Divorce doesn't have to be a bad thing. Sometimes staying together is worse. You are still loved and the most important thing in their life and their happiness means your happiness no matter which way things go. Good luck and write anytime.

[Buttons2]

Pink, first I want to welcome you to BT. I'm old enough to be your grandmother so I'll suggest you might want to post on the Emotional Support forum here. (so more people will take notice).

You didn't give any particulars about why you feel the marriage is in trouble,other than using an online survey? And whatever is going on should remain private anyway. But we can help you to deal with your own feelings.

I just want to say that YOU should not have the burden of trying to "fix" the marriage. You might consider sitting down with both of them & expressing your concern.....this might be an eye opener for them. Perhaps they are so caught up in their own lives they are unaware of your concern?

I'd try to resist prying into issues,there could be financial or health problems right now. Parents usually try to shield their children from their problems,I'm not saying that's always a good thing,just that they are the adults & have the right to keep some things private.

Please don't jump to any conclusions until you have some solid facts. Let them know you love them & are afraid they are heading in a wrong direction.give them the opportunity to either admit the marriage is in trouble,or to reassure you that even though there are problems they are trying to work it out.

Keep in mind only your parents can fix what is wrong. Suggesting a marriage or family counselor is a good idea,it shows you care & are mature enough to recognize trouble & seek help.

Good luck to you & please let us know how it goes.
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[Brianna]

The best advice you could ever get from anyone is to trust in God. Do you know Jesus as your personal Savior? If not then please find out as much as you can about Him. He came to the earth as a child and grew into a man, but not any man. He was God on earth. He died to save us from our sins and then, after three days, rose again. Believing in Him will get you to heaven one day to live with the Lord forever in eternal bliss. He could save your parents' marriage and make it stronger than ever! Of course your parents would have to let Him. He is the source of true happiness and love for others.
Counseling only solves the superficial and temporary problems... sometimes. If you let Him, Jesus Christ will heal the very heart of the matter. Do you mind if I pray for you?
Love, Brianna