Sue-please check in

[Buttons2]

Hi Sue, it's been a week since I posted here so just wanted to check on you! I hope that you've been getting positive support this week & you're doing better,one day at a time right?

HUGS Buttons

[CoolAngel28]

Buttons-

Thanks for starting this thread..I was wondering about Sue,too.

Sue,sweetheart..thinking of you. Kristin

[Buttons2]

Sue, there can be several reasons you're not posting......one is that you are getting on with your life & staying away from depressing forums such as this,two is that you are really deep in mourning & just cannot function.

Just want you to know I'm thinking about you!

You're an amazing survivor Sue, hopefully the days are getting a wee bit better for you.....HUGS & prayers,Buttons

[mama sue]

Hey there Buttons,
I have been in Washington. I had to go and clean out the house and put it on the market. :( VERY HARD. I cried so much this week that I am drained. It's an eight hour drive back to my sisters and I had to keep pulling over since I was crying so hard I couldn't see to drive. What an emotional week :(

Having to sell my house and locking that door for the last time hit me like a ton of bricks. It made this whole thing very real. I know Bob is gone, but I swear........I kept expecting him to walk around the corner any minute.

Anyway, I am back in Oregon now and will be busy unpacking and puttting things in storage. Not looking forward to that at all.

How are you? I've missed chatting with you. Thank you for thinking of me.

Thanks Kristin :) {{{HUGS}}} Hope things are well for you.

[Buttons2]

Sue, doesn't seem like you had alot of time to deal with all this! But then again I suppose no time is right. I hope the house sells quickly so you can do what you must to keep going.....

I have no experience with what you're going through! And I'm thinking this is where a support group would be a good idea,be with others that have gone through this also.

It wasn't just a house,it was your home. HUGS right now on that loss. Now you might want to stall a bit as far as what to get rid of & what to keep. Give it more time? Almost 6 weeks now & you've had alot to deal with. Don't try to do more than you have to.

Did you know I live in WA? I'm about an hour north of Seattle,but I lived in Yakima for my growing up years (well, if I grew up that is). I live in a beautiful area of the Skagit Valley,where the tulips are!

I'm an antique dealer & I have had experience dealing with the family after a loved one passes away. I always urge them to wait.....seems some people want to get rid of everything immediately. People need time to grieve regardless of the circumstances. I think they are still in shock. What they give up is gone forever & they might regret it in the future, or not even recall what they did @ a time of grief. I'm not suggesting you plan to sell anything,just pointing out that time does make a huge difference on perspective of what to do with the belongings after someone you loved is gone.And if you've had relatives wanting this or that,just ask for time.....it's not going anywhere right? I HOPE everyone has given you the respect of time & will be a comfort & help rather than nick picking over momentos,etc.

Sounds like alot of tears are being shed,I see this as a good sign,tears are cleansing. Sue, my heart just goes out to you,so much tragedy in your life,and you are still so young. There will be better days ahead I promise. And right now you despise the word "promise" but it's just how I feel about you.

HUGS & prayers,Buttons
P.S. Thanks for coming back to keep us informed......

[Lara]

Sue, so good to see you posting. I had wondered if you might be away sorting out some affairs like you were. I really feel for you. It must have been very difficult. I hope you had some help or someone to be with while you were up there. Thinking of you (((mama sue)))

Buttons, that sure is a beautiful area you live in. I adored your state. Was there for a while in '98/'99. :)

[mama sue]

:D Hey there~
I understand what you mean about needing time to sort things out. I had my sister and Bobs daughter with me. Bobs sister and mom came over while I was there and they took all the things they wanted and I boxed up the rest to go through at a later time. My goal was to get it cleaned out and on the market and that has been accomplished. <WHEW> I wasn't sure I would make it through at the end.

I didn't know you lived in Wa. Cool!! My home is in Hansville. The very northern tip of the Kitsap Penninsula. Do you know where Kingston is? It is across the water from Seattle. Edmonds/Kingston has a ferry run. Well, I live about or lived rather, 15 minutes from Kingston. Beautiful area, I will miss it so.

Who knows, maybe someday I can return. It was very hard leaving Bobs Mom. As a mom who has lost both of my children, I know her pain. She has lost her spouse and knows mine. I think together we can get through this. She is a wonderful woman and I love her very much.

Thanks for checking in with me and keeping me on your heart. You are very precious to me.

Lara~
You are such a dear. Well you guessed it, I was doing more business stuff!!!! I am looking forward to just having some time to NOT think about what goes where, who do i need to call, did I remember to get all the business accounts closed.......and the list goes on.

My oldest sisters birthday is Sept 3, so we are all going camping for a few days to celebrate. I can't wait. :) I appreciate your kindness and wanted you to know how very much that means to me. {{{HUGS}}} back atcha.

[Lara]

Sue,
Just passing by and wanted to send a quick "G'day".
I hope you're enjoy your weekend away camping. Sounds as if it would be wonderful actually.

G'day to Kristin and Buttons as well of course!

*bunch

[Buttons2]

Sue, I'm so happy to hear that you are going camping! Been waiting to hear that you are doing something outdoors & fun with the family!

I live near the tourist town of LaConner. One of my sons lives in Coupeville. I've been all over the pennisula,as far as Neah Bay,beautiful drive! I don't do much travelling these days though. Just the annual trip over the pass to see my parents in Yakima (where I grew up). Or did I?????:rolleyes:

Hope the house sells quickly! And it's so good that God gave you loving & helpful family!

HUGS Buttons

[mama sue]

just back from camping and now have to unload and wash clothes. YUK!! Had a great time. Only cried a few times. Hanging in there. Sorry so short, much to do to get ready for work tomorrow. How are all of you?? {{{HUGS}}}

[Buttons2]

Sue, I didn't realize you worked-guess I'm too used to my own situation! I can barely manage a small business:rolleyes:

Hope you are enjoying some nice early fall weather!

Are you doing as best you can? Sure hope some of the shock & pain is losing it's grip on you.

Take care,HUGS,Buttons