my Mother passed away...

[Coral Keeper]

I ususally post in the spinal forum but just found this group. My Mother passed away july 21 after falling and breaking her hip. She went through surgery fine, rehab fine, came home and home rehab fine. She saw her ortho doc and he was so pleased he was going to release her and 2 days later she died somehow in her sleep. I know she is in a much better place but I am so lost....

[joy]

Hi Sue. I can relate to your grief. My own mother passed away in 2004 because of a broken hip. I was staying in hospital with her all the time. While there my shoulder froze up. I'd had a box fall on it 2 years earlier and thought everything was all fixed. Also I had jumped up to answer a phone and my feet were numb so I fell and hurt my hip and knee. I THOUGHT I was doing right by mother by having her stay in our rehab hospital. I was so wrong as one of the nurses was not careful and had her scoot down. It caused her hip to pop out of place. The woman left and did not report it. It kept popping out and mother did not live long enough to make it out of rehab. I blamed myself for the longest. She was 84.


I feel so bad for you when I read your words, I am so lost. Please continue to visit here as I know I will not be the only one to reply to your message. It helped me as much as anything to have a place like this to put my feelings down after I lost mother. With the help of others here I never felt all alone.

[Tootsie]

Sue, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. Somehow, we all seem to feel as if they will be there for us, forever. Then, the ravages of time and complications of aging, creep in and steal them away. While it was a great shock to you, your Mom was improving after successful surgery and rehab and I'm sure was looking forward to more years with you, and her loved ones. She was not in pain, nor had she suffered a long, debilitating illness. You do need to acknowledge that blessing, although it does not lessen the pain of your loss.

I, too, lost my mother following successful surgery and partial rehabilitation for a broken hip. For her, it was a urinary tract infection that produced so much toxcicity, that her heart just stopped. We had visited with her just 2 hours before. She did have a history of heart disease, heart attacks, etc.

Please allow yourself to grieve completely. Years after my mother died, I found myself in a grocery store with tear streaming down my face as I saw a can of Bon Ami scouring powder on the shelf. My mother would NEVER use anything but Bon Ami!

There is also a Grieveing Forum, a Sanctuary Forum and others that you might find helpful as you work your way through your feelings of loss.
Cheerio.

[JanieDriver]

Sue, this is late, but please allow me to express my sympathies.
I too lost my mother, and then my father, when I was in my 40's. I was upset because I didn't want to be an orphan yet!I was closest to my father. I still talk to him now, after 7 years.