Cry Tears
05-01-2007, 03:12 PM
WARNING:
Contains sensitive subjects that may be bothersome.
Read it only if you're emotionally strong.
This is just one of the "theories" being considered as one of the factors for your bodies "getting" Fibromyalgia.
This may be pure bunk and speculation...but sure makes a lot of sense to many.
Its been said by many psychologist that women who have Fibromyalgia have a strong history of being molested as a child.
85% or more is the number being tossed out in this study.
But may be higher. Some molestations are committed against a child who is "preverbal" or unable to communicate.
Studies have shown that when a little child suffers the stress from this heinious crime, it sets up nerve paths that should not have been set up.
Once those nerve paths begin, they take on a life of their own, growing more and more pain paths, sending signals of "fright/flight" from the shear terror felt during the molestations.
Imagine the confusion and terror a little precious and innocent 4 y o girl endures when Uncle Fester takes her hand, leads her into the bathroom, and makes her perform something a street walking prostitute does for $25!
Good arguement for stay at home moms! Get rid of those huge flat screens, trendy clothing and SUV's...its NOT worth your childs suffering this tradgedy! And quit shopping at "STUFF MART"....the cheep sweat factory produced junk will be worthless fodder, ending up in next years garage sales piles! But we need it, keep our image up!
Stop shopping "STuff Mart" warehouse? But we save money shopping there!
Besides..I'm way too tired to cook....so I'll get 299 salty ready-meals!
I was a deputy Sheriff when I was in my prime of life...perfect health, perfect physical condition.
I was in tip top shape, not an ounce of fat on me. Not someone likely to get Fibromyalgia.
I often worked in the womens jail, and sometimes working the streets driving a squad car, yes writting speeding tickets! LoL! Hey...I got one a few months ago...couldn't talk my way outa that one...that cop wrote his own mother one! Geeeeze...talk about stinky!
Most of the women in there for drug possesion, theft and or prostitution. Rarely for anything else.
The need for drugs drives these women to perform just about any kind of act for just a few bucks.
We may want to look at these women with disgust...thinking "They only bring this on themselves...if they'd just clean themselves up they'd......" Yes rightly so!
But its the same with us who have Fibromyalgia....we just can't get this "monkey" off our back, anymore than one of these women can clean themselves up. Pease....I'm only comparing this one aspect of hard to "rid of", change!
I knew many of them for years...always the same women, in and out. Same sad story.
Theres about 85% residivism rate (return rate). They always swear, promise they'll never be back, learned a good lesson. They were serious in this promise but...going to change their ways AFTER they have their one last "joint" or fix....but once they take that step, they're right back where they were. Its a never ending vicious cycle
In talking and getting to know them, they often shared their life "story"....nothing like you'd think!
Most not from some slum or filthy rat infested homes like often pictured.
Some of these women come from Christian homes, father prominant doctor or professional in the community.
Even law enforment and preachers wives, but rare.
Some of these women are very educated, talented and gifted, had once a promising scholastic furture ahead of them, all tossed aside because drugs had a stronger hold on them than even their own babies!
Why are these women so willing to trash their lives this way?
Why doesn't that flippant phrase "Just say NO" work?
Why don't all those prep talks they've heard since grade school stop them from using drugs?
What's the first step in their demise?
Peer pressure, for one...but why can't they just be strong and say "NO"!
Poor self esteme? Why?
Was Uncle Fester's sick obsession the reason she wants to cover her pain?
Do these women try to hide the pain of that hideous nightmare with drugs that take away the brain pain for only a short time?
And if not with drugs, then other obsessions such as eating disorders, shopping obsessions, even schooling obsessions...one family member of mine spent 23 years going to college, getting 2 PhD's...****nning away from self.
Don't have to think those ugly thoughts if mind is too full of school work!
Eat yourself into oblivion?....get sooo fat, no man will want to touch you!
Bolimic, anorexia....a way to control your life because when younger you had NO control over what was done to you.
Hide your sexuality with folds of fat?, so no one will want to make a comment about how nice your figure is.
Or complete opposite....showing off every inch of skin to attract attention.
They scream for attention...albeit negative attention, at least its attention!
The attention they never got from loved ones too busy earning money for toys everyone has!
Even the attention Uncle Fester gave was a form of attention!
A family member of mine, a male, admitted the sexual acts he had to perform with this Church Leader, married, seemingly godly man, always respected by everyone. Was a health care professional as a surgical nurse in a Christian hospital his entire life till he retired.
This man led out in bible studies, prayer groups, counceld young boys, always there for them!
Unlike their fathers who were too busy making SUV an ATV payments!....and guess what!
NEWS FLASH: Children DO NOT need that new Sony Play station...they need a box of crayons and a parant sitting next to them just having fun! :( There are many ways to cut back so mama's can stay home to keep their children safe.
I know...there are some who this is just not possible. Its very sad when they'd do anything to stay home, but can't.
Back to: This "boy" said the pay-off for having this mans obsessions played out on his body for years, was the hours of attention and companionship he was shown while his own father ignored him while doing church work instead!:mad:
I'm all for doing church work, dont get me wrong...but ONLY if you don't have small ones at home who need you more!
What does this man do to cover his pain from those ugly memories that keeps popping up in his head?
Obsessive bible studying and or drug addiction! Always running away from self!
Work can also be an obsession! Anything done in excess can be an obsession!
Don't feel I'm finger pointing, people...I've done all the above myself...put my son in day care, the best in town. Charlie Brown preschool center! He could learn more! Be smart! Yes...he read 3rd grade level when 4 years old! He WAS very gifted child. One day I picked him up from "school"...he told me his teacher touched his privates, made him cry!
that was the LAST day I took him there...stupidly, I only took him to a different day care center instead of just staying home. My toys and junk was worth more than my precious son! All that "TRASH" I got with that money is somewhere in a landfill....while my son is still my son who depended on me for safety. I failed him miserable. How I wish I could go back in time with the knowledge I now have...perhaps I still wouldn't have listened...I was stubborn! Wanting more "STUFF"!
Remember the bible story of the young woman who'd been caught prostituting herself and was brought before Jesus to have Him punish her, thinking they'd gotten both of them in a bind.
This sort of "sin" was dealt with by stoning death.
Jesus bent down, wrote something in the sand, perhaps the names of thier girlfreinds or children they'd molested in the past....told them whoever is without sin to cast the first stone...they dropped their stones and ran away.
The bible is clear in what lead Mary into prostitution...she was molested by an uncle when she was younger. Then it says that anyone who harms a child will suffer the worst of consequences in the end.
I suspect my Uncle Fester gave me something I'd have to live with both mentally and now physically if this is part of the cause or steps setting up your body for "getting" fibromyalgia. Only God knows!
But I don't have much doubt is the cause in most cases.
Anyone?
Blessings, Cheryl
Wanna hear something really terrifying?
My sister who holds 2 PhD's is a University professor, has own web site, very famous in our area....her husband is a druggie...was accused of raping our 14 yo cousin...he admits to the rape, but said he was too drugged out to perform well and thought it was my sister!:eek: he was raping!
That he ALWAYS got up 3 am, to smoke a few joints, chase after rabbits on the dairy. His 2 brothers both high profile policemen in San Diego, helped him get off this charge.
Now here's the terrifying part. This guy works with retarded youth!
Now isn't this nice?!
My family takes this man in like one of the good guys...I dont stand for this sort of coverup! Therefore....I'm 100% shunned/abandoned by that family!
Like who wants to be part of that sicko psycho family?!!?
I was the ONLY family member who refused to take my young daughters into their home to spend time with Uncle Cameron!
And they have the Cajonies to turn me out?!?!
But this is the norm in most families!
Pat her on the back for the accomplishments she did, respect her like everyone else does because she's a big wig around town.
But I know the truth...she sleeps with a drug addict who's raped a few girls!
I wonder what she thinks when she looks in a mirror?!
And the horrible things she's had the nerve to call me...uneducated idiot!
OK...she's right...I chose to NOT abort my babies like she did so could seek a career. You bet! I'm uneducated idiot! But when I look in a mirror, I like who I see! Am not ashamed of my husband, but very ashamed of my "family"!
I didn't want to go to that family reunion anyway!
Cheryl
Contains sensitive subjects that may be bothersome.
Read it only if you're emotionally strong.
This is just one of the "theories" being considered as one of the factors for your bodies "getting" Fibromyalgia.
This may be pure bunk and speculation...but sure makes a lot of sense to many.
Its been said by many psychologist that women who have Fibromyalgia have a strong history of being molested as a child.
85% or more is the number being tossed out in this study.
But may be higher. Some molestations are committed against a child who is "preverbal" or unable to communicate.
Studies have shown that when a little child suffers the stress from this heinious crime, it sets up nerve paths that should not have been set up.
Once those nerve paths begin, they take on a life of their own, growing more and more pain paths, sending signals of "fright/flight" from the shear terror felt during the molestations.
Imagine the confusion and terror a little precious and innocent 4 y o girl endures when Uncle Fester takes her hand, leads her into the bathroom, and makes her perform something a street walking prostitute does for $25!
Good arguement for stay at home moms! Get rid of those huge flat screens, trendy clothing and SUV's...its NOT worth your childs suffering this tradgedy! And quit shopping at "STUFF MART"....the cheep sweat factory produced junk will be worthless fodder, ending up in next years garage sales piles! But we need it, keep our image up!
Stop shopping "STuff Mart" warehouse? But we save money shopping there!
Besides..I'm way too tired to cook....so I'll get 299 salty ready-meals!
I was a deputy Sheriff when I was in my prime of life...perfect health, perfect physical condition.
I was in tip top shape, not an ounce of fat on me. Not someone likely to get Fibromyalgia.
I often worked in the womens jail, and sometimes working the streets driving a squad car, yes writting speeding tickets! LoL! Hey...I got one a few months ago...couldn't talk my way outa that one...that cop wrote his own mother one! Geeeeze...talk about stinky!
Most of the women in there for drug possesion, theft and or prostitution. Rarely for anything else.
The need for drugs drives these women to perform just about any kind of act for just a few bucks.
We may want to look at these women with disgust...thinking "They only bring this on themselves...if they'd just clean themselves up they'd......" Yes rightly so!
But its the same with us who have Fibromyalgia....we just can't get this "monkey" off our back, anymore than one of these women can clean themselves up. Pease....I'm only comparing this one aspect of hard to "rid of", change!
I knew many of them for years...always the same women, in and out. Same sad story.
Theres about 85% residivism rate (return rate). They always swear, promise they'll never be back, learned a good lesson. They were serious in this promise but...going to change their ways AFTER they have their one last "joint" or fix....but once they take that step, they're right back where they were. Its a never ending vicious cycle
In talking and getting to know them, they often shared their life "story"....nothing like you'd think!
Most not from some slum or filthy rat infested homes like often pictured.
Some of these women come from Christian homes, father prominant doctor or professional in the community.
Even law enforment and preachers wives, but rare.
Some of these women are very educated, talented and gifted, had once a promising scholastic furture ahead of them, all tossed aside because drugs had a stronger hold on them than even their own babies!
Why are these women so willing to trash their lives this way?
Why doesn't that flippant phrase "Just say NO" work?
Why don't all those prep talks they've heard since grade school stop them from using drugs?
What's the first step in their demise?
Peer pressure, for one...but why can't they just be strong and say "NO"!
Poor self esteme? Why?
Was Uncle Fester's sick obsession the reason she wants to cover her pain?
Do these women try to hide the pain of that hideous nightmare with drugs that take away the brain pain for only a short time?
And if not with drugs, then other obsessions such as eating disorders, shopping obsessions, even schooling obsessions...one family member of mine spent 23 years going to college, getting 2 PhD's...****nning away from self.
Don't have to think those ugly thoughts if mind is too full of school work!
Eat yourself into oblivion?....get sooo fat, no man will want to touch you!
Bolimic, anorexia....a way to control your life because when younger you had NO control over what was done to you.
Hide your sexuality with folds of fat?, so no one will want to make a comment about how nice your figure is.
Or complete opposite....showing off every inch of skin to attract attention.
They scream for attention...albeit negative attention, at least its attention!
The attention they never got from loved ones too busy earning money for toys everyone has!
Even the attention Uncle Fester gave was a form of attention!
A family member of mine, a male, admitted the sexual acts he had to perform with this Church Leader, married, seemingly godly man, always respected by everyone. Was a health care professional as a surgical nurse in a Christian hospital his entire life till he retired.
This man led out in bible studies, prayer groups, counceld young boys, always there for them!
Unlike their fathers who were too busy making SUV an ATV payments!....and guess what!
NEWS FLASH: Children DO NOT need that new Sony Play station...they need a box of crayons and a parant sitting next to them just having fun! :( There are many ways to cut back so mama's can stay home to keep their children safe.
I know...there are some who this is just not possible. Its very sad when they'd do anything to stay home, but can't.
Back to: This "boy" said the pay-off for having this mans obsessions played out on his body for years, was the hours of attention and companionship he was shown while his own father ignored him while doing church work instead!:mad:
I'm all for doing church work, dont get me wrong...but ONLY if you don't have small ones at home who need you more!
What does this man do to cover his pain from those ugly memories that keeps popping up in his head?
Obsessive bible studying and or drug addiction! Always running away from self!
Work can also be an obsession! Anything done in excess can be an obsession!
Don't feel I'm finger pointing, people...I've done all the above myself...put my son in day care, the best in town. Charlie Brown preschool center! He could learn more! Be smart! Yes...he read 3rd grade level when 4 years old! He WAS very gifted child. One day I picked him up from "school"...he told me his teacher touched his privates, made him cry!
that was the LAST day I took him there...stupidly, I only took him to a different day care center instead of just staying home. My toys and junk was worth more than my precious son! All that "TRASH" I got with that money is somewhere in a landfill....while my son is still my son who depended on me for safety. I failed him miserable. How I wish I could go back in time with the knowledge I now have...perhaps I still wouldn't have listened...I was stubborn! Wanting more "STUFF"!
Remember the bible story of the young woman who'd been caught prostituting herself and was brought before Jesus to have Him punish her, thinking they'd gotten both of them in a bind.
This sort of "sin" was dealt with by stoning death.
Jesus bent down, wrote something in the sand, perhaps the names of thier girlfreinds or children they'd molested in the past....told them whoever is without sin to cast the first stone...they dropped their stones and ran away.
The bible is clear in what lead Mary into prostitution...she was molested by an uncle when she was younger. Then it says that anyone who harms a child will suffer the worst of consequences in the end.
I suspect my Uncle Fester gave me something I'd have to live with both mentally and now physically if this is part of the cause or steps setting up your body for "getting" fibromyalgia. Only God knows!
But I don't have much doubt is the cause in most cases.
Anyone?
Blessings, Cheryl
Wanna hear something really terrifying?
My sister who holds 2 PhD's is a University professor, has own web site, very famous in our area....her husband is a druggie...was accused of raping our 14 yo cousin...he admits to the rape, but said he was too drugged out to perform well and thought it was my sister!:eek: he was raping!
That he ALWAYS got up 3 am, to smoke a few joints, chase after rabbits on the dairy. His 2 brothers both high profile policemen in San Diego, helped him get off this charge.
Now here's the terrifying part. This guy works with retarded youth!
Now isn't this nice?!
My family takes this man in like one of the good guys...I dont stand for this sort of coverup! Therefore....I'm 100% shunned/abandoned by that family!
Like who wants to be part of that sicko psycho family?!!?
I was the ONLY family member who refused to take my young daughters into their home to spend time with Uncle Cameron!
And they have the Cajonies to turn me out?!?!
But this is the norm in most families!
Pat her on the back for the accomplishments she did, respect her like everyone else does because she's a big wig around town.
But I know the truth...she sleeps with a drug addict who's raped a few girls!
I wonder what she thinks when she looks in a mirror?!
And the horrible things she's had the nerve to call me...uneducated idiot!
OK...she's right...I chose to NOT abort my babies like she did so could seek a career. You bet! I'm uneducated idiot! But when I look in a mirror, I like who I see! Am not ashamed of my husband, but very ashamed of my "family"!
I didn't want to go to that family reunion anyway!
Cheryl