Hi there *waves*

[Emerald]

Hi im Emerald who is 35 married with 3 daughters and ive have suffered with a brain aneurysm.
I had a stroke got it checked out and they found a neurysm above my left ear on the brain then i needed operation on it where they clipped it off coz it was triple veins,i wouldnt come out for anastetic after openation they realised a suffered another stroke in theatre from a blood clot so they took me into theatre the next day for 4 hours (the 1st time was 9 hours) the get rid of blood clot this timel
I was in hospital all july this dear now im walking and talking all normal.
I dont feel right,i dont like people knowing about me and i feel everyones eyes upon me and people are talking,i want to move near to my family now but my husband dont want to,i spend time in my bedroom especially when of his mates come round,never used to,i feel upset but i dont know why.:confused:

[Lyn]

Hi Emerald

I am so glad to meet you - welcome to our wonderful group. You should never be ashamed of what has happened to you, you have literally been to **** and back - and come out the other side.

Did you know that lots of people (probably most of us here) have suffered from depression as a result of their aneurysm? There are lots of physical reasons, as well as huge emotional reasons for this. What you have been through is a life changing event, and although your husband surely loves you, he has no idea of how you are feeling. Until you have been there, how could you?

Perhaps you should ask your husband to come and read some of the posts on this forum. I didn't have the same problems you have had (my annie was found before rupture and I didn't have much in terms of complications in my operation or recovery). But I did cry A LOT - I did get snappy and angry and emotional, I did feel like a broken toy with a head full of staples and a horrible hairdo, I did have problems getting organised and talking to people, I did end up with depression and there is no shame at all in getting something to help with it.

Anyhow, you will find lots of friends here, and I am looking forward to reading more from you.

Cheers

Lyn :)

[Happydaze]

Hi and welcome Emerald - I'm glad you have found us! It takes along time to recuperate from the strokes and surgery you have had. Please don't be down on yourself, it took me months to even remember names of people I see all the time! You have good company here as we have all been affected in some way by the same thing. - -- If your husband would like to come to this site he will learn alot about the lengthly recoverery involved with this type of surgery, he would be more than welcome! Remember, recovery is really made by taking baby steps and its not always easy. Please let us know how you are doing.

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[jordal]

hi welcome to brain talk. the help and suport you will get here is priceless. i have an aneurysm also but mine is unruptured. im waiting to find out what opperation the neuro surgeon will do. im 30 and have 2 kids too. i hope that you will visit here often because any problem you might come across you can know that you are not alone and have nothing to be ashamed of. everyone here cares about each other and you will find a happy second family type of group... to sum it all up..... talk... were listening. We care. (((hugs)))

[Emerald]

aww so much you all answering my post,reading about others been thru similar things to myself and readings your times it really brings it home to me that there are other people that have been thru similar things to mine.
I can see at a great forum i found just looking for answers on the web,im really glad i found you.:)

[ChrisC]

Emerald, I think one of the biggest changes in my life after my surgery was my emotions.........sinking into a hole of depression and being able to cry at a stupid television commercial. Don't hesitate to talk to your doctor and get his advice - antidepressants should be part of the after care of an annie. It's a totally life changing event and should be looked at more seriously. Please try to get out more, find something you're interested in and jump into it. Keep your mind otherwise occupied - I know when you're feeling down, it sometimes spirals out of control and that isn't good for you or your family. My prayers are with you!

Chris

[Emerald]

aww thankyou Chris for you wise words,they made me to think about my well being and my outlook on life,your words speak volumes to me,thankyou.;)