have you ever seen sick people or cripples made fun of?

[clouds z]

i wonder where this happens the most

people are sick..when i had shingles i felt people thought i got beat up and maybe i deserved it-eye was swollen shut too

people make me sick sometimes

or am i just paranoid?

[Boopers]

No, Cloud Z, you are not paranoid. Sadly, yes, this happens everywhere you go. Personally, I think it's the people that have never had anything serious go wrong with them and they don't understand what it's like.:(
I, too, have been made fun of, right in front of my face. It's not fun. It's sad that some people aren't more compassionate to their fellow kind. I always keep in the back of my mind that "what goes around, comes around" and that helps me through times like that.
Peace,
Linda

[clouds z]

really?im in wa as well

[septemberrein]

No, Cloud Z, you are not paranoid. Sadly, yes, this happens everywhere you go. Personally, I think it's the people that have never had anything serious go wrong with them and they don't understand what it's like.:(
I, too, have been made fun of, right in front of my face. It's not fun. It's sad that some people aren't more compassionate to their fellow kind. I always keep in the back of my mind that "what goes around, comes around" and that helps me through times like that.
Peace,
Linda

It does happen all too frequently. I believe it is because ppl are AFRAID of what they don't understand. And yes Boopers, that what you sew, so shall you reap.

[The Dude]

Yes i have seen this done......

It is VERY SAD and uncalled for!!

[trekker]

I live in a building full of mobility impaired people and you should hear them tease each other...but I'm never quite comfortable with it. There are others who feel that some people should not live here because they don't feel they are impaired enough...that surprises me.

[Braindrain]

Hi, trekker:

I can understand why you would be uncomfortable with it. But, there's a
difference between them teasing each other in a joking way, and someone
who's openly making fun of them because they are in a wheelchair. I'm
not trying to be mean or sarcastic, I'm just saying that there are two
ways to look at it.:)

As for "not being impaired enough", I've heard that one, too. When I first
went on SSDI, there were certain programs that I wasn't eligible for because
I "wasn't disabled enough". Or, to put it another way: if I'd been in a
wheelchair or severely mentally handicapped, I would have qualified for
certain programs.

clouds z: years ago, when my grandmother (my mother's mother) fell
in the house, one whole side of her face was bruised. My parents
took her to the hospital. When they came home, I found out that
when they got her to the waiting room, everyone was looking at the
bruises on her face-and looking at my father like they thought that
he did it. Apparently, none of the people in the waiting room ever
bothered to actually ask how she got the bruises.:rolleyes:

[clouds z]

people are sick

you just gotta hate em

[countrygirl]

but no cloudz, don't hate them, pray for them and their ignorance. They come in all sizes and ages and really either don't know any better or they just don't care.

Don't let them get you down.

[chrystoo]

hi cloudz. i agree with country girl, just ignore ignorant people.

what's that old saying about people walking in the moccasins of others before they comment about them? i think that's a good one. those unkind people do not even deserve your notice. they just don't exist.

[JanM]

Several years ago I fell and had gotten the biggest black eye. People would give my husband the weirdest looks. I, on the other hand, told them a tall tale as to how it happened, and as they were gasping at the story I then said, "Now I'll tell you what really happrned!" Then I told them how I tripped over a low bench at a rest area in Iowa on the way home from a trip we had taken. I had to have both eyes operated on a couple of months ago and both eyes were swollen and black. I have found if you make a joke about it, people will be very at ease about it. For my back problem I tell people if I was 6 inches taller, I'd be a pain in the A$$.

[trekker]

I always remember something my mother used to say "what goes round, comes round". Some day they will have a problem, or one of their family members and then they will know what it is like. Everyone gets sick, everyone gets old, no one escapes from the trials of life.

[Matuboo]

i wonder where this happens the most

people are sick..when i had shingles i felt people thought i got beat up and maybe i deserved it-eye was swollen shut too

people make me sick sometimes

or am i just paranoid?


To answer your original question yes, I have seen people get made fun of for being cripple and having health problems. Those same people will one day face their own health problems and eventually, their demise as we are all mortal. Typically it ends up being children, I recall many of the special education kids in our school (when I was young) get picked on. Adults should know better! I've had people tell me I look like crap and make other hurtful comments but I am usually pretty thick skinned and realize that these people are simply ignorant, none of them are worth getting to know.

I am a firm believer in the fact that you reap what you sew. I try to treat everyone with respect, although I fall short sometimes I never judge anyone by the way they look, that I can honestly say.

[countrygirl]

You are absolutely right. God forgives everyone but they still have to face Him and confess their sins.

Cloud, what has you on this subject? Are you ok? I know you don't usually post unless something is really on your mind so this makes me worry about you. If someone is bothering you about disabilities, just take it with a grain of salt if you can, and smile at them.

My favorite way is to look at them and smile and say "God loves you anyway". They don't know what to say and it usually makes them ashamed for making fun of you.

You are a good person, so don't let an idiot get you down.

Hugs go out to you
CG

[lilviking]

I have to agree with Braindrain. There are two ways to look at it. There is a sort of acceptable double standard. It is one thing if you make fun of yourself or have fun with close friends. Humor and laughter is the best way for not only us, but our family and friends to deal. I have a close friend with Lupis and we joke a lot about our lack of mobility, tests, and the like. We can relate and it helps us both, but we also know when not to joke.

When an outsider or stranger does the teasing in a malitious way that is totally unacceptable. I think we have all seen that group of people talking and laughing among theirselves when they see someone with limited mobility trying to get around an obsticle or when they see someone with an obvious physical disability. They are afraid and it is the only way they know how to cope. What comes around goes around, right? I hope that one day they will learn what it is to have a disability and not go through life totally ignorant.

Fotunatly, there are a lot of people that will reach out to give a hand or include the less abled. I do not advertise my disability and even try my hardest to hide it so that people don't treat me different, but make sure people see me reach out to help. I try to lead by example and hope that at least children will learn to not be afraid and be willing to reach out.

Everybody has a dream.

[Matuboo]

To be honest, I have not seen this type of behavior in middle aged or older adults with maybe one exsception but I have seen kids in their late teens or college-age kids belittle people. If you're referring to people pointing, staring and laughing, or making rude comments. The latter of course, being the worst because it's hard to tell sometimes what people are talking about if you are not close enough to hear them. If there are rude comments or someone is pointing I would not hesitate to confront them, I figure I owe myself that much.

[jennifer]

Hey Clouds

I have been made fun of, it isn't fun. But you got to think of it this way, who made me and what am I here for? You are here for a purpose and only God knows that purpose, so hang in there and let me know if I could help in any way. I have congenital hydrocephalus and no friends and again have also been made fun of for various things.

[clouds z]

Hey Clouds

I have been made fun of, it isn't fun. But you got to think of it this way, who made me and what am I here for? You are here for a purpose and only God knows that purpose, so hang in there and let me know if I could help in any way. I have congenital hydrocephalus and no friends and again have also been made fun of for various things.


you have noone to talk to? you in a small town?it must be difficult-i hope things get better

i had shingles and i looked like a monster with eye infrection i guess-i feel better and look more normal i guess

guess i forgot about this thread

[jennifer]

People get made fun of a lot, regardless of anything. But you do see people with disabilities and other life alternating things being made fun of more. I get made fun of because of my hydro, or because I am black, or becuase I am adopted. or because I had to take special education in high school and I am not as smart as some people, but you and others have to look at it this way, we were all made by one creator and he sure can take us down any moment. So those people making fun, need to ask him for forgiveness before it is to late.


Jennifer

[Cry Tears]

Jennifer. I'm sorry that nasty ugly people have made fun of you.
I can't say I understand how you feel because I'm not in your shoes.
But I do know that because of my losing my health and I'm no longer the person I once was, those who knew me don't understand this.

Jesus was perfect in every way. He was kind, loving and caring.
He healed the sick, the blind and releived suffering.
He tried to teach us to show compassion for those who suffered.
But sadlly because of sin we failed miserably.

What did they do to Him? They whipped, beat, slandered, spit in His face, hung him on the cross and made fun of Him. He died broken hearted.
He didn't get angry....He asked God to forgive them because "They know not what they do".
Anytime someone makes fun of you for any reason, whether you are in a wheelchair,your skin color, have a larger head than normal, odd looking body parts or any other deformaty.....these people who make fun of this are the ones who are sick....their deformaty doesn't show.....their heart is dark, ugly, mean spirited. They make fun of others only because they have very low self esteme.
I'm not sure if I beleive the saying "What goes around comes around" or Karma. I wished this were true....sadly its not.
There are people who are down right evil towards others who have less than they do and live wonderful and prosperous lives....never suffer a day in their life. But that doesn't mean they have Salvation and eternal life!
Our time on earth here is very short. Those who seem to have "had it all" and wronged Gods suffering people....will not even taste Heaven.
I suffer pain and fatigue 24/7, but I am very moblie. I grew up in a very disfunctional home. I never had a mother and father who loved me.
I was abused from the day I was born. So I know what it is to suffer.
I have never made fun of, nor have I ever thought myself better than someone who was disabled....I don't deserve the "life" i've been dealt any more than any of you who suffer worse than I do.
I do look foward to receiving a new body, living forever without any pain and suffering...where I will be loved.
Be proud of who you are Jennifer. Black skin IS BEAUTIFUL! And being adopted means you were special enough to be PICKED by loving people who knew you weren't perfect.
You were so blessed to be able to have a special school to go to!
And you are much smarter than you think you are....look...you are able to write here on Braintalk. See....you are smart!
You probably are very sweet too!
When people make fun of you...think of them in this way:
When they're making these ugly statments, they are hurting themselves. They are damaging their immune system. It makes them feel ugly on the inside. After they finish doing these type of things, I'm sure they feel terrible for what they have done unless they don't have a conscious.
They are trying to hurt others because they themselves are hurting in every way.
Jennifer......Here's a hug from me to you! {{{{@}}}}
Blessings to you, Cheryl
PS....I picked out a little kitty because his back legs were deformed and he had extra toes on each foot. He's pure black. His name in Bitty-Boo.
He's my favorite cat....he's sooooooo sweet! I'm so glad I picked him and not the other perfect kitties! When I'm not feeling well, he comes lays on top of me....as you'll see in the photos. He's the only cat who does this. See, he's special!
I'm posting a picture of him here in this post.

[joy]

Jennifer - you are one smart cookie! ;)

[jennifer]

Hey Crytears and Joy

I appreciate you guys being here for me to talk to, I need someone.

[Odd~Scroobell]

Unfortunately, I have: when I was a grammar school child, I can still remember seeing other children standing in the doorway of the Special Education class and imitating their movements and facial expressions! :( It made me mad then and it still bothers me.
Children should be taught from an early age to accept differences in others and to have empathy for those who are challenged either physically and or mentally, that Everyone has feelings and can be hurt by cruel words and deeds.
All through my school years I was taunted and made fun of by my peers because of my AD{H}D Dyscalculia and Sensory Integration Disorder, plus I was very near sighted and had a bad overbite later corrected with braces. The words of others hurt but I believe they made me stronger and gave me greater empathy for the sufferings of others. I have even been able to forgive some who were destined to make my school years so miserable and there is both strength and freedom in that.
I still have many problems but acknowledging them and accepting my limitations has certainly given me insight and freedom and definitely empathy and compassion for others
PS. Love those pics of your Bitty~Boo, Cry Tears, Is your cat a British shorthair? She's Beautiful!!! :D


:):):D:cool:;):cool:;):cool::D:):)

*cat2

[clouds z]

kids are maybe the meanest

[Lavandula Canadensis]

it happens to me regularly, as i walk with a cane, sometimes 2… and i’m limping a little bit… and when i enter a building with air conditionning, i have to wear hat, scarf & coat… even in summer… because of TN triggered by cold ventilation... i can see people kick their partner with their elbow, then point at me with their hand, making faces & whispering something…

it used to hurt me a lot… not as much now, as i try to just look at what it is really… IGNORANCE… and, imho, ignorance is a voluntarily self-maintained mental retardation disease… as, in our world of technology & communication, there are no excuses anymore for maintaining oneself in ignorance…

many alledgedly humoristic tv programs make fun of disabled people in various mean ways… i only watch documentaries... and so many people’s only education & culture comes from tv :( and for most of them, not from documentaries...

kids are not mean by nature… they learn from what they hear & see: their parents, their teachers, tv :eek:

i can only pray for them to awaken... i don't feel strong enough to confront them... i'm just starting to comment to 'looking normal running & rushing people' using the adapted toilet at the shopping centre...

Cry Tears,

your little kitty is sooooo cute ! you certainly don’t need to reheat a magic bag in the microwave oven when you need to have heat on your neck with that little fur angel :D

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p.s. i just realize this thread dates back to 2006 ! oh, well, people don't seem to have changed very much...

[blue sahara]

Yep just a month ago I was at the library and heard too middle aged women whining how a group of people with disabilities and their aiders(?) went to the plane before them and how they had to wait.. the horror... they even mimicked the way the people moved their had and how they spoke and then both of them laugh as if it was the best joke ever:mad: