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Cry Tears
04-18-2007, 05:55 AM
I know this is a "victims" typical feeling...always waiting for the other shoe to drop....or kind of like impending gloom and doom!
But I just can't help it latley...I keep feeling like something bad is about to happen to me or my family...or perhaps another terrorist attack on our US soil...gosh...we don't need another hit!

Maybe big earthquake coming...we had a huge one spring break in 95' that scared the petuneas out of anyone living in the NW.
But I can't help but feel this isn't over yet and we've not even seen the half of it yet.
I can't help but worry...gosh we're at war right now...things are not good, there is no peace and safety like they'd have us lulled into feeling just because we're not blasting this 24/7 over the airwaves right now.
Maybe its just from having come from a disfunctional family, where we were always on the move...one day ahead of the landlord...or just old stinkin thinkin popping its ugly head.
Its an awful feeling having this looming over my head like it has been these last few days....I feel like I'm about ready to go freak out somewhere!
I need a good cry! Or something like that...but I can't cry anymore.
When Madi was taken away a few years back....I cried rivers of tears.
I thought I'd NEVER stop crying....for 9 months it was every moment flilled with stress and missing her sooo bad.
I worried myself sick wondering if she was OK or if I'd ever see her again...then finally the rotten grandmothers true colors came flying thru...she was put in jail and the police swooped little Madi up and brought her back home all in an hours time!
ITs been 4 years since the police took her out of my arms and put her in harms way with the other "grandmother"...they refused to listen to reason, refused to do a background check on her...had they done so they would have learned she was NOT who she said she was....isn't 100's of old scared and some infected tract marks up and down both arms enough to spell out IV drug users? Well...DUH!

Little Madi is the one who paid the most...she tells me of the bedtime story she got each night...much different than the ones she got in our home.
She said it went like this every nite at 8PM even in summer:
"its 8 o clock...git yir hash (different word here) in bed or I'll beat you!" NOW you little....blank blank....and often was told...
"You need a good hash whoppin" as she got a kick in the behind.
Her long locks were shaved like she was in the military!
That initself was heartbreak enough....but hearing my little one tell the horror stories this other "woman" did to little Madi....and the police did all this!
We have very good cause for a hefty law suit...but it would only bring unrest into our home once again...we don't want that, ever!
They continued to refuse to listen to me until recently.

They know now what a huge mistake they made but...now its too late...the damage is done...but the other "grandma" will NEVER see those kids ever again....my daughter in law makes sure of this, has a restraining order against her...but like I said...its way too late, the damage was done....all by her! She thought she could trick us all, that she would gain custody of madi and her older brother....ha!
They threw the BD card she sent last year in the trash...hope there wasn't a $5 bill in it!
Hey...big spender! You coulda got a new crack pipe with that kinda big do ya sent!
She won't go back where she came from cuz Texas doesn't mess around with crooks! Too bad Oregon ***** foots around them! Judge Low, lets em go!
Probably see's her outside his courtroom for a "go around"!
Or like that hrrid judge that was on the news recently...he had a penile pump he played with during court proceddings....everyone kept hearing this odd noise...then they caught him hands down what he was doing under that robe with a room full of people! And he's still in office!:eek: Making decisons on peoples lives!?!?! OMG! Where is Justice when you need him?
Anyway...it was spring time when they took Madi away...maybe thats why I'm feeling this awful " gloom/doom" type feelings.
Even thou I was once one of "Them"...I'll NEVER trust another cop in my life, and if I need to report harm being done to a child...I'll just take matters into my own hands....justice will be done then, thats for sure.
To make matters worse, my husband keeps having chest pains, but Dr's arent offering real help.
And Satin dog keeps chewing her sore foot, licking herself, snorting and making noise all night long...keeps moving the door in the room where she's kept at night...Maybe I need to put her in the kennel downstairs, but I hate doing this now she 's only dog in the home now,
Anyway...thanks for reading this....I'm so tired and its sooo late, but I reall wanted to post these feelings for some time now even at the risk of sounding over the edge...but hey...this IS braintalk after all isn't it? LoL!...cheryl

Buttons2
04-18-2007, 03:25 PM
Hi Cheryl, I've found lately that I cannot stand to even watch the news anymore. All the horrid things going on, all the heartbreak from the horrific killings,etc. And everything bad is shown over & over & over.....

You need to put the past to rest so it's not controlling the present. Think about how much Madi gets to enjoy in life right now & how bright her future will be.

Can also understand your disgust with the justice system. Anyone that has has to fight for the welfare of a child quickly learns you sometimes have to do what you know is right regardless of what the law might say.

In today's world we get an overload of information,and we get it faster than we can deal with it,no time to mull something over before yet another tragedy occurs! Pretty soon we are overwhelmed. Seems as though we're all on a crash course to the unknown or the ultimate end of our world as we know it. We should feel scared.....but, we can't let it control our thoughts.

Nothing we can do if the big earthquake hits. I also recall the prior ones since I'm in the Northwest also. My fear for my kids,how would we survive? I actually kept an emergency kit in my car for a long time. One earthquake all three of us were working within a block of each other,in old brick buildings. Our home was just across the river.....if it had been a bad one we could never have gotten home!

You simply cannot live your life in fear of "what if". Live is for the living & we have to go forward. Never know when some lunatic will open fire & kill us or someone we care about. Nobody can predict the ending of our life story.

Try to focus on the good everyday. Think about all the millions of people that are enjoying their lives. The happy children with smiles on their faces & laughter.Watch the animal shows on TV,learn something new everyday. A simple thing like bringing home some spring flowers it a gift to ourselves & others'.

As I type this I'm postponing walking my doggie cause there's a horrific snow/sleet/hail storm going on! Yikes! We can't even rely on the weather these days......so we just gotta be prepared for anything & maybe laugh about it eh? Just a few minutes ago the sun was shining......

You hang in there, better days are ahead of you. Your husband will be OK, you have to believe that or you are wasting precious days with him.

I once tried to figure out the best place to live in the US, taking weather,crime,scenery,services,etc. into consideration. I couldn't come up with anyplace "safe".

HUGS,Buttons

Jo6
04-19-2007, 05:29 PM
Cheryl, hang in there. You have little Madi now. You gotta make warm memories for her to carry the rest of her life.

You are a good person, Cheryl. Think of all the good things we have around us. I agree that the news media is not fit to listen to and it's hard to rule out.

II think of you often. Take care and we'll get thru this together, ok?:)

Hug Madi for me, she will need more hugs from now on. thinking of you, Julia

Tootsie
04-21-2007, 09:50 PM
Hi Cheryl,
I think you are suffering from "anniversary syndrome." All of the reminders in nature, of the time when Madi finally came home, will trigger those same feelings. This has happened to me also.

Over 40 years ago, I was being driven home from the hospital by my husband. All the Japanese cherry trees were in bloom along the street we took to get to the freeway. I cried all the way. Our 31 week gestation preemie, had to stay in the hospital. By this time, we knew he would be OK, but have to stay there until he gained more weight.

To this day, if I drive down that street when those trees are in bloom, I will tear up, sometimes not being totally cognizant of why I am doing so, until I remember. This too, will pass. Cheerio.

Cry Tears
04-23-2007, 02:49 AM
Thanks so much and hugs to all for your kind words and encouragement.
I think whats triggering these ugly feelings is the fact my dear hubby has been having some health issues...he'd battlled mouth cancer years ago, then it returned, battled that...then had a pre cancer show up a few months ago. Then last few weeks he's had lots of chest pains...spent the night in hospitals for it....still having chest pains...will see cardio doc in mid June! Long time to wait! Grrrr!
And on top of all this the mare we've been boarding was 3 weeks overdue with foaling...then her owner, immature mouthy brat is causing problems.
We've all been overtired, overworked with anticipation...now foal Lilly is here, healthy and too cute. But her owner continues being a stinker...she's outa here!
Maybe the programs on Court TV and A&E contstant barage of death, murderous family members....wicked side of life...and I've immersed myself in this as I watch these type programs....Ive always been interested in Law Enforcement....so these type programs intrest me...but perhaps affecting me? Maybe I should follow what the bible teaches....what so-ever is good, truthful, kind, lovely...think on these things!
Those programs certainly aren't any of those!
Maybe I should rethink watching that junk!
Blessings, cheryl

Buttons2
04-23-2007, 01:01 PM
Agree 100% stop watching those programs. Go sit outside & watch Lilly romp around in the pasture while she's still there. Get some more Koi & sit by the pond & paint some more pretty pictures! Be determined to fill your day with positive environment & good thoughts.....you deserve the very best days possible,make them happen!

Hugs,Buttons

JAVISI
04-24-2007, 12:23 PM
Cheryl,
I just want you to know that I pray for you and wonder how you are doing. You always try to be happy and help others, yet inside you are hurting! You have so many people that care about you!

As you know, I am in a similar situation feelike the ball will drop again, things seem to keep happing. I won't go on to my problems as you know them! I have been trying to read books on how to let me be happy and not always feel so negative. Sometimes I think I will always feel that way. But, I am fighting! I want to have a happy life and enjoy it as much as I can.

Sorry I didn't respond sooner! I just got out of the hospital after a week stay~:( . My gastrostomy tube was inflamed due to my body rejecting it like a foriegn object. Noe I have a tube in my nose:eek: Not a pretty site but I am trying to come to terms with it. Being in the hospital gave me a lot of time to think about things.

Just want you to know that you are not alone! I will be here for you when I am at home or at the hospital. You are in my thoughts and prayers!!:)