I finally did it.

[stefanies]

For the past year, I have wanted to write to my neurosurgeon and tell him how the MVD has affected my life. My pain doctor wanted me to see him in person to tell him how I feel, but I don't feel strong enough to do that.
So I wrote him an email last week, and plan on sending it today. (I know he checks his email)
I didn't make it long, but I did tell him the struggles I've had to overcome and the heartache it has caused my family.
I did end it with "Please do not reply". I wrote the letter so that, maybe, I'll be able to heal, at least mentally, and not start crying everytime I think about what happened. I don't want to hear from him again. I'm trying to end that horrible chapter. He should be thanking the Lord above that he is getting a letter from me and not a lawyer...so I hope he doesn't respond.
I know I am probably going to be messed up for life, if not a few more years, and I wanted him to know that. I do not want to be a "success" in his book.
Thanks for listening.
Stefanie

[baywatcher]

Good for you, Stephanie. Not that it will make the physical problems any easier to live with, but resentments - and you must, certainly, feel justified resentment - are like nasty little thorns. All they do is fester and continue to cause pain. I wish, in fact, that I had followed up on some incidents in my life with such an action.

You're right, he has no reason to enter this as a "success" in his books.

Hugs, Nancy

[stefanies]

I sent it today. As a writer, I had to make sure it was just perfect. It wasn't long, got my point across, and told him basically how I am not the same person I was before. I told him that his staff ignored my complaints in fear of a lawsuit and that that is not how you should treat people. I think if I were anyone else, they would have sued. But I'm not like that, so he is very lucky.

[southerngirl]

I'm proud of you Stacy alot of us don't have the guts to tell these doctors how they effect our lives, I hope he gets something out of it. But at least you did it. There have been many doctors I would have loved to tell off, but were too afraid, good for you. Maybe he'll treat the next person different. And if it helps just one person, you have accomplished something.
Catherine