I lost my grandfather

[thomking]

Im worried, i lost my grandfather last week, i was really worried, i helped him a lot on his last stages of his life. I dont know how am i going to take this it is really a painful feeling. Any ideas how to divert my mind.. thanks and god bless

[JAVISI]

Thomking,
First off I want to tell you how sorry I am for your loss! Unfortunatly their are no clear cut answers to your question:( .

Everyone is different when it comes to grief. Their are 5 stages of grief that people go through, denial, bargaining, anger the last is acceptance, sorry I can't think of the 4th one. My brain doesn't work like it used to.

People go through these stages at different rates of time and can revert back at anytime. So I am sorry I have no clear cut answer for you but I do know that getting your feelings out and their are many people here that are willing to listen and give good solid advise.
Best wishes for you!

[Tootsie]

Losing a loved one is always difficult, especially when you have been so involved in their daily care during the illness that eventually took their life.

Meeting with their friends, relatives and others who knew them to talk about the old times, celebrations, holidays, family events, is helpful. Looking through photo albums, and remembering those happier times can also relieve some of the depression and sadness.

After my mother died, I prepared a small album of pictures taken after I moved her from her own home, into mine, many miles away. I took that album with me, when my family returned to her home town for a final memorial service, and shared it with her friends. That helped a lot.

I made an effort to write to all of her friends and contacts, telling them, how much all their cards and notes had meant to her, during her illness. Some of them responded, telling me about their own experiences, knowing my mother. I have kept all of those, as I do treasure them.

Remember all the happier times with your grandfather, and rejoice in the fact that you could be with him and help him through that final process of living, before dying. That fourth stage of grieving that JAVISI mentioned, is depression. It is part of the normal grieving process and may be brief, or an extended period of time. As she mentioned, we all grieve in our own way and deal with the loss in our own time. Please know that you are not alone. We all have lost someone dear to us. Life does go on. Cheerio.

[thomking]

thank you friends
thanks for your replies.

[thomking]

Hey friends!
what do you think about the word broad minded?

[JAVISI]

Thomking,
I am sorry I haven't posted sooner I have been wondering how you are doing?? I had to spend some more time in the hospital.

I would like to answer your question, I know this may sound dumb but you must remember my brain isn't as sharp as it used to be! Although I do like to get into intelectual conversations. Will You word it a little differntly for me??

Hope you are doing well, with best wishes to you!

I am Still Dreaming Big and Reaching for the stars! Javi