Why do some people

[dyslimbic]

Claim to be your friend and then time and time again dismiss/invalidate/trivialise
what you have to say? http://img117.exs.cx/img117/6721/o4fsad.gif

This is not directed at anyone here. It just freaks me out emotionally that's all.

[waves]

[Why do some people] Claim to be your friend and then time and time again dismiss/invalidate/trivialise what you have to say? http://img117.exs.cx/img117/6721/o4fsad.gif

This is not directed at anyone here. It just freaks me out emotionally that's all.Tim. sadly, I empathize fully. I have experienced this recently, so I am fresh off the grill..

My guess is the "why" is different for each person who does that. Sometimes it may not be intentional, other times it might be a manipulation, other times you're dealing with someone with a chip on their shoulder, or someone really superficial, or someone who cannot or will not "hear" you, some won't even listen / try to hear ...

I have learned that the word "friend" is used very lightly by some. As such, when someone calls me "friend" it may not correspond at all to my idea of friendship, and that the "friendship" can change in a broken heartbeat.

whatever the reason anyway, it sucks rotten egg juice doesn't it.

((( hugs )))

~ waves ~

[Bdix30]

I consider both of you friends and care about you both!! Just wanted to pop on and tell y'all that.....caught up in a rough spot right now and posting takes effort.

(((hugs)))
Bobi

[yoyo_girl]

I'm sorry Tim that whatever has happened did happen at all. I wish that whomever you trusted had not hurt you. People are people. We all see the world in a different way and some people can't see past their own view. People get caught up in their own pain and then filter everything through it. I hope whatever happened improves for you.

namaste

[Pamster]

I'm sorry you're having a person who used to be a friend treat you as if you're not truly important to them any more, that stinks. I don't know why people do that. But the fact is some do and some do worse, they can just talk about thier problems and like you said, trivialize yours and demean you in the process. It's not fair but life isn't fair. I am glad to have all of you here as my friends, I count on your support and hope that you feel I am here to support you right back because friendship is a two way street, REAL friendship is...:)

[Salsa]

Reminds me of the song "Nobody Knows You When You're Down and Out." I've experienced it in the past too and it really hurts. Guess that's when you learn who your friends really are.

Do you have any family nearby who are supportive? I attend a small church and have found a lot of support from them. I think it really helps if you have a group of people you're able to get to know. Maybe a support group. (Just some thoughts).

Meanwhile, know that we're all here and I do see sincerity between the people here on the board.

Sandy

[JAVISI]

Tim,
I wish I had the answer as to why people claim to be your friend and then quit when you become ill, at least that is what happened to me!

Sometimes I think that I became a burden or an embarassment, I am not sure:confused: But I have come to realize that these people were not my friends in the first place. A friend will stick by your side through thick and thin. You are lucky when a friend like that! I savor my true friends and still greive some for the people that I thought were my friends;)

Here on this site I have found many true friends that I know really truely care about me and my life, not just my health. I have found that I can post things and get good solid advice or just a hug when I need it!