Where to go

[Lady Moonlight]

Where do you all go when you need to be safe? Not from like a storm, but from yourself or other people or life in general?

LM

[empathy]

Where do you all go when you need to be safe? Not from like a storm, but from yourself or other people or life in general?

LMLM,

This would vary, depending on the individual.

For myself, getting wrapped up in distractions does the trick: housecleaning, PC online chess websites and forums, reading books by favourite authors, long walks, and, sometimes just visiting a local park.

empathy

ps. If your thoughts are bothersome, put on some cheery music, and let it work its magic on you.

pps. Just started working my way through a couple of popular 'cognitive behavioural therapy' texts -- very helpful in showing how our minds (through the current habits in our ways of thinking or using self-talk) can influence and change around our moods.

[Linda25]

Empathy had some excellent suggestions

here are a few more, some of which may not suit you:

church or some spiritual meetings - hopefully one that is supportive and non-judgemental

music - I love napster and my mp3 player, I'm learning about new music and get to listen to all my old favorites

adult education/craft classes - take something easy and fun - it gets you out of the house and into a low stress activity where people are usually nice and friendly

call your local crisis line if you need to talk something out - it doesn't have to be an extreme crisis

volunteer at a pleasant place - a museum, arboretum, animal shelter (not for everyone) volunteer to walk dogs, be a hospital "pink lady", rock babies, food pantry, local senior center - just a few hours per week to start - get out of the house and volunteer

READING

crafts - take a crafts class at your local crafts store, learn something new and it's fun to talk with the other ladies in the class

meditation - there are resources on the internet and tapes you can get from the library and buy that are guided meditation for stress, healing, depression

the main thing is to 1) change the routine 2) get out of the house 3) meet new and hopefully upbeat people 4) distract yourself from the pain

good luck

Linda25

After re-reading your post I see that you asked where to go to feel SAFE (not ness. distracted) I go to the library - which is a safe place because it is quiet and there are other people around, but they aren't bothering me

Go to a light or humourous movie - again people around but not bothering you

a public park/arboretum where you aren't totally alone, but you have the outdoors and you can enjoy nature- walking is very healing for me

[Lady Moonlight]

Thanks for the suggestions. It's really hard to go anywhere b/c my Baby always needs to come too, and I already have both mothers watching him while I work. Most of time I hide in myself or sometimes under a blanket, but then my husband starts bugging me about what's wrong. He's not very accepting and it doesn't help that he's also triggering too sometimes. I will just try my best. Thanks

LM

[Linda25]

Hi Lady Moonlight

have you been screened for post partum depression?? new moms can get it for up to 2 years after the birth of their baby. It's hormonally based.

medication can work wonders

thinking about you (((hugs)))

love,
Linda