I'm about to give up

[Jo6]

I have tried to post here for at least 2 days and it just won't go. I'll try this one. MIL is very low, Dr. said she was in the last stage, furthermore the very last of the last stage. This is exactly how he put it. I'm very sad for Ken and also for Mary. She was a very special person to me. I'll see if this will go

[Tootsie]

Hi Julia,
I'm sorry to hear that your MIL is so bad. At times like this, I always hope that the end will come sooner, rather than later. However, from my own experience, I know that no one, is EVER, ready. The loss and sorrow is just over whelming when it does happen.

It has been a long road for you and I am sorry that you have had such difficulties posting. It does help to know that others realize how you feel, and recognize the strain of the past months.

I've noticed that I sometimes have to wait forever for a page to load. Being such a computer novice, I always think that it is some thing that I'm doing, or not doing. Most likely, it has to do with the complexity of this site and the amount of information it holds. Cheerio.

[Jo6]

thank you for responding, Tootsie. Yes, we do begin to pray it will be sooner than later. the suffering, the whole situation is about more than I can bear some does.

It does cause me to wonder how it looks and feels from our LO's eyes. I wish things were different, but alas, they are not. Thank you for listening to me all these years.

I think BT should promote you to "Cheerer Upper "Lady. I see you encouraging others all over this board and it does not go un noticed.

I really do care for you Tootsie, you are a Da** good lady. Julia

[Tootsie]

Thank you for all your kind words, Julia. It has been a long, tough road for you and your husband. I know that after my mother died I had an extended period of refocusing my life. It took so much time and energy, even after I placed my mother in a residential home, I didn't do much else.

One of those things that I did was find BT. At least now, there are move community based support groups, day care and respite services, etc. It is good to see that some progress has been made. Cheerio.